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...See more oookay so basically this guy i rode the bus w and was kinda friends w in elementary school hmu randomly being like u look good let’s catch up. atp we hadn’t talked since elementary school and i was coming out of a 2 month relationship so i was like okay let’s see. we went on a date to the arcade and i really fell for him. over the span of a month he did everything right he paid for everything, opened and closed my doors, complimented me, brought me little gifts or trinkets, took me out it was all so amazing. i ended up finding out he went behind my back w another girl after i noticed the energy had been off and cut contact. he came back asked for another chance and i let him like a ***. again, it was perfect for a while but then he said he needed space so i was like sighhhh okay. he comes back AGAIN saying he’s gonna do better im like ok sure and he underdelivers and leaves again. after that the cycle repeats once more and the last time he came back i told him i wasn’t doing this back and forth and this was his last chance. again things go well but the main issue thoughtout all of my time w him was he’d put in effort at first and then slowly give me less and less. it got to a point where i wasn’t even seeing him once a week which was different from before so i told him everything i felt and how it wasn’t making sense how he says he likes me and wants me but his actions say otherwise. he apologized and said he didn’t mean to hurt me but the next day he texted me like nothing happened or like he wasn’t trying to fix it. i texted him yesterday saying if he can’t put in the effort i need or have time for me i need to know rn and yeah now we’re js friends. im hurt cuz if he js put in more effort like plan dates, compliment me randomly, buy me flowers, take me out to dinner CONSISTENTLY we would’ve been perfect i would’ve treated him so well. i romanticized the thought of his potential and now i disappointed myself. i asked him one night if things would ever go anywhere cuz we’ve been doing this on and off for 6 months and he said he could see us tg and that he likes me but it takes a while for him to love someone. i asked if he loved me he said no. i said you don’t love me but you can have sex with me? i’m at a point where im okay w us js being friends cuz i like having him in my life but i also miss js being around him and taking whatever he gave me :/ ik that’s horrible and i should have some more self respect but when it comes to him im so weak. i know if i let things go back to the way they were i’ll continue to feel miserable but i also can’t stop thinking abt him it’s so annoying like ur the one that wanted me first bru wth do i do. #hotgirlsummer???

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