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...See more I know that I will get attacked for saying this, and I really don't care anymore. This type of thing needs to be talked about, and if you aren't comfortable about it or you feel that you need to attack me for this, then please leave. I don't need people attacking me for something that I think is really important and that needs to be heard. I believe that in every controversial topic, everyone needs to be heard. Every side needs to hear and understand what the other side is trying to say. When I say this I'm not saying that everyone needs to change their beliefs. I just feel that everyone needs to at least hear the other side in order to give a better argument, or a better discussion. If you are trying to talk about things civilly, then you should get into the habit of listening to the other side and not but into what they are trying to say (ultimately, don't do what Trump does in the presidential debate... that- just don't do that). I want to talk about people misusing the term "transphobic". I'm honestly getting really tired of people labeling me with that when it's not true. What most people would consider a transphobic person: 1. Someone who disrespects or outwardly hates transgender people 2. Someone who doesn’t support transgender ideology 3. Someone who disagrees with them on anything related to the matter Those are just some example of this term being thrown around. It's being used very loosely. Now, when I think of transphobic, I instantly think of someone being scared or afraid of transgender people. I then decided to look it up on the Merriam-Webster dictionary (online of course because who has an actual copy of this laying around?? Ok, maybe some people do, but I don't). The Merriam-Webster definition of transphobia is: "Definition of transphobia : irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against transgender people" I am going to basing this whole thing off of this definition, because Merriam-Webster is really reliable, and I trust it, so yeah. "Irrational fear" - an extreme, unwarranted fear linked to a specific object or event. There may be some people that do have an irrational fear of transgender people. I don't know, but I do know that most people who are being labeled as "transphobic" is not scared or afraid of transgender people. They are just like any other person. "Aversion" - a strong dislike or disinclination. There again may be some people that have that strong dislike towards transgender people, but most people who are labeled this don't have a strong dislike towards transgender people. They treat transgender people the same way they do any other person, if not better than other people because they are afraid of calling them the wrong pronoun or disrespecting them by not calling them the way that person wants to be called. "Discrimination Against Transgender People" - That is really self-explanatory. There again are people that discriminates transgender people, and I'm sorry for that. Again, there are also people who don't do that and again treat them the same way they treat everyone else. What I'm trying to get at this is that you shouldn't be taking all this out on everyone that doesn't agree for what you decide is best for you. Transgender people shouldn't be calling people transphobic unless they are doing one of those things that is listed in the definition of the actual word. I've been called transphobic just because I said that I didn't agree with what they were doing. Ok, I'm very religious and I stand firm in what I believe in, and I have that right to believe what I believe in. That doesn't give people the right to label me something when all I said was that I didn't agree with what they were doing. I was never disrespectful of what others do and believe. I've never discriminate someone because they were transgender. I don't have a distinct dislike for people that are transgender. In fact, I have friends that are transgender or in the LGBTQ+ community in general and I still love 'em. I treat them like any other one of my friends that isn't in that community. I'm sure that majority of the people that have been labeled as "transphobic" does the exact same thing as me. Now, it really isn't fair when people in the LGBTQ+ community (and I'm not talk about everyone in that community, but it's really all that I've personally seen) treat everyone who doesn't agree with them like they are a piece of crap. I've been called insane and been pretty much bullied on this site because of that belief, and that isn't the way that you should treat someone who has different beliefs than you. All the people that I've personally seen in this community have been quick to judge and put words in my mouth and ultimately made me out to be the bad guy, and I've seen it a few times on this site. That's not right. In conclusion, I really wanted to explain what I feel on this specific topic. This is truly what I believe and that in no way means that you have to believe what I believe. Like what I said in the beginning, I only want people to start listening to the other side of an opinion, and that goes with every controversial topic and every opinion out there. I'm tired of seeing people quick to judge people when they have opposing views on things. Thank you for everyone that has made it this far, and who has read all of it. That really means the world to me that you took the time to read something that is really important to me. If you have any questions or anything to say/add, I am open to any discussion on this topic

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