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PathStep 2 Compassion hearts7 Forum posts9 Forum upvotes14 Current upvotes14 Age GroupAdult Last activeApril, 2016 Member sinceAugust 7, 2014
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So, me: a writer, generally pretty chill and down-to-earth about life but with a handful of anxiety problems to keep things interesting. I'm 25, pansexual, keeping on top of my ability to get addicted to things, and fascinated by things that scare me, Sometimes way way way too fascinated by them. Frequently. Ok pretty damn often. Almost always. I also tend to be wordy, but I like to help and listen and talk. Tell me if I'm talking about myself too much when we're trying to focus on you - I tend to use my own stories as a way to try to relate to someone else, but can go overboard without meaning to.

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I'm addicted to men who scare me.
Relationship Stress / by ADTE
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April 23rd, 2016
...See more Uh. Potentially absurdly triggering for people. Just uh throwing that out there now. Let's just dive into tmi territory. So, I like men who are generally messed up. Genuinely. I don't end up dating them or sleeping with them, and am in a happy long-term healthy relationship. But say a character in a movie, a book, a game. Anything. If they're even mildly attractive to me and scare the hell out of me? Instant turn on. Cute guy with a hot voice beats the living shit out of someone with a baseball bat? I'm not cringing at the poor person getting beat to hell, I'm biting my lip thinking about the guy dishing it out. And this honestly scares me? I get that a lot of women have fantasies about getting overpowered or even raped, once in a while. But the vast majority of mine are? Like it's rare and noticeable to me when that's not whatever I'm fantasizing about. It just seems like taking the whole submissive thing and going way, way, way too far with it. And this isn't new. This is something I've had... from the beginning really. Since I first started thinking about having sex. For the record I've had a good life for the most part. Financial problems sure but good family life and all that. I don't even know if there's something to talk about with this but I needed to get it off my chest and at least have someone hear it. But I'm open to any and all questions, if anyone wants to discuss.
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