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Adenei302825
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Relationship Stress / by Adenei302825
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 May 13th, 2021
...See more First time posting on here. I’m 39 and suffer from depression/anxiety. My second husband and I have been married since sept 2019, together 5 years total. Back story made short as possible. About 2 years ago we decided to go into the swinging lifestyle. We don’t sleep around and I can count on 1 hand the number of couples we have swapped with. So even in the lifestyle we aren’t very sexually active but do it because of all the amazing friends we have made. My husband is 41 and I know his sex drive is more active than mine. My depression and just the stresses of life with work and children often keeps me not feeling very sexual. He also works third shift and falls asleep right before his head hits the pillow, usually by 9-10pm he’s out on his off nights. Now for my problem. A couple months ago we went into a very dry no sex spell for a few weeks. He seemed to be more interested in going to the gym and sleeping. I put a camera in our bathroom to see how often he pleases himself ( don’t judge 😒.) He always said he never did in between the times we would actually have sex. To my surprise he does it almost every day if not then every other. Always while watching porn. I know men do this and if it wouldn’t be so frequently I wouldn’t even care. Today he did it twice, once while I was gone and a couple hours later I was in our bed right about 8 ft away. If he would Make some effort I would take care of his needs. I just feel like his hand is what he would really much rather have or watching women that have a much better body then I do. Him doing this makes me even more depressed and very insecure. I can’t really say anything without telling him I’ve invaded his privacy and become a crazy wife. So question is am I being crazy or does my husband have a problem with tickling his pickle and porn
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