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Adrien026
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Relationship Stress / by Adrien026
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 January 12th, 2022
...See more Hello everyone, Just here to talk about my situation and see if other people can rely and/or give me some advice. So I'm 26 now, but when i was younger i always viewed love as something pure and never had so much interest in sexuality. I never really thought of it before but for the last 3year i start having doubt if I'm not the one having some issue on the way i deal with my love life. Basically that's what happens, i meet a girl, we spend a lot of time (weeks/months) talking and enjoying time together, we get really close to each other. Then I realize i start having feelings for her but I'm really worried about loosing the friendship that we have, so at some point I just decide to be straight forward with my feeling and tell her about it, she tell me she is not into me and then as hard as I try to stay her friend she end up disappearing from my life few days after. After that i feel down, so i start questioning myself and my values, i go flirt with some girls, have some ONS/super short relationship. This happens twice to me in the last three years but everytime it hurt really hard. The thing is i have no interest in sex when it comes to the woman i fall in love with, i just want to spend my time with her so i just don't flirt with her, but when it comes to other women i can flirt and have sex with them. I don't feel that i want any sexuality but when i fail with the woman i love, i think i just blame the fact that I'm not sexually active and i feel so bad that i just become sexually active to be loved. Am i the one with an issue for not feeling any sexual attraction for the woman I love? I just feel like I could end up in a relationship with the woman i love if I included flirt/sex into it, but that's really not what I want. Also should I refrain from telling someone my feeling in order to keep a friendship? I get quite confused because I feel the more i have good intentions toward someone the less chances i have to be in a relationship with them. So if you have any advice/any other way to see it or even want to share similar stories it would be really nice. Thank you, have a nice day.
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