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How do I cope with missing my ex husband
Relationship Stress / by Alicemelinda85
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 June 18th, 2020
...See more My husband and I broke up almost a year ago. We had a mutual break up (we were together for 9 years and married for 3) and the last (almost) year has been friendly as we have a beautiful daughter together. I had thought I was fine, but the last couple of months all I can think of is him. I miss him so much. I had met someone else at the end of last year who was lovely but we broke things off as I was feeling it just wasn't quite right. I'm so confused as when we split I believed it was the right thing to do, so I really don't know why I'm feeling so lost without him now. Things were far from perfect between us, and I know we both made mistakes but I just can't see a future without him now. I feel like I've made a terrible error and I don't know what to do to move forward. I don't want to cause awkwardness by bringing my feelings to the table as I genuinely have no idea how he feels and I also don't want to make a fool of myself if he isn't interested in trying to give things another go. I just don't know what to do! Any advice would be greatly welcomed.
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Relationship Stress / by Alicemelinda85
Last post
 August 13th, 2019
...See more I really dont know how to talk to my husband about our relationship. We have been together for 9 years and married for 3. The biggest cause of my sadness and depression in life mostly boils down to our relationship- or lack of. We are so different, which seemed to work ok in the beginning but we literally live separate lives now and only talk about our daughter (age 5) or a simple how was your day?. I do EVERYTHING. I do all the washing, cooking, cleaning, arranging childcare, and I am in charge of paying all the bills (he gives me an amount each month and I deal with it all because he is awful with money and has got us into some financial trouble previously). I work 35 hours a week and I think he forgets that Im not at home all day. We havent been intimate for over 8 months, and right now I would rather be with anyone else than him. We have separate friends, separate social lives and only really see each other in the evenings at dinner time. I cant live in this situation anymore, Im so lonely, Im so sad that I have no man to hold and love me. Hes not horrible at all- just bloody rubbish. Ive asked for help, Ive asked him to join me for councilling, I cant even get angry with him any more because Ive resigned myself to the fact that we are not the right match. My depression is getting worse and I cant cope with feeling so alone all the time. I just want someone to love me like I love them. Please help!! I cant even start a conversation with him.
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