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I don't think dating is for me - Sexual assault warning
Relationship Stress / by AllenDevillate
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 March 8th, 2022
...See more I'm almost 20, and I haven't had a single consensual experience with a man. Not matter how polite the guy is, it seems like they push me for things I'm not ready for or blatantly ignore my boundaries. I had a difficult time admitting my experiences weren't consensual. I always explain how far I'm willing to go with a guy, set my boundaries, then we mess around. But time and time again, the guy escalates the situation by continuing to ask for things I had refused until I say "yes," or they claim afterward they "forgot" my boundaries. However, I didn't realize this was assault since I never told them to stop in the moment since I would freeze. I never want to make a big deal out of it, so I usually just break up with them. However, the disgust I continue to feel when it comes to sex doesn't make me excited to try again. I'm perfectly happy being single, so I think I'm going to either stop dating or just stop dating men. Does this seem reasonable? I would like to hear opinions and maybe even receive validation, especially since this realization was recent and I still don't know if my experiences count as "sexual assault."
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