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AmicablePerson
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LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by AmicablePerson
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 January 18th, 2024
...See more Having a difficult time figuring things out with appropriate label to share with people.  I have a great deal of clarity about what i feel and what i want, but i am feeling like i have to choose between communicating clearly my intended outcome for my life vs. my experience of my sexual identity.   I started out believing myself to be Bisexual as a cis man who sees the attractiveness of both men and women..  However when i started the process towards self acceptance i got scared and retreated from identifying as LGBT because of my conservative upbringing and internalized homophobia.   Now for the last several weeks I've made the decision to not reject myself anymore and started identifying as Gay because i have no interest in a romantic or sexual relationship with a woman , but rather wish to end up married to a man.  The internalized homophobia is still playing havoc with my emotions and i haven't really began living as openly LGBT except for going to an affirming church and telling 3 close friends.   My concerns in labeling my self are twofold: 1. I wish to be honest about my experience as an LGBT man. 2. I wish to clearly communicate my desire to be married with a man.   If I say i am Bisexual, concern 2 isn't met. But if I say i am Gay concern 1 isn't met.   I do not want my coming out to be anymore difficult than it already is for me.  if there was some way to self identify with a single label that meets both needs/concerns described above I would appreciate knowing this.  
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