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...See more Where do I start? I began my first romantic relationship as an 18 year old naive little girl, without much understanding the ways of the world and the ways of inconsistent people. I attached myself to a man who did not contirbute to my self care, who was not emotionally available and entered and exited my life when he felt like it. I played this game of "peek- a- boo...I never see you" for 2.5 years and our breakup left me devasted. I realize that we never communicated our feelings .We never voiced what we wanted, and we did not create boundaries and expectations. That is such an essential part of self care, having expectations of how you should be treated with every human relationship and speaking up when a boundary has been crossed. I began a new journey with another man, and I began putting that into practice with him. I made it clear that I don't excuse inconsistent behavior and that if anything changes it needs to communicated, fair enough. He ghosted on me for a few days under the assumption that I wanted space. Well sir, if I wanted space, don't you think I would had told you that??? It put me in a negative space, it took back to a familiar place of co-dependency, unhealthy. I told him that his actions will be a matter of consideration and that he wouldn't hear from me from a few days. Boudnary crossed, expectation established, consequence put in place.

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