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Wondering About Disability

Disability Support / by AnonymousWriter43

September 6th, 2025

...See more I’ve been dealing with pain for quite a while now and was wondering if this is possibly disability levels. Everyone around me dismisses it as growing pains or just me not being active/dramatic but its been happening for a very long time. Around 7th grade I was experiencing a lot of pain and soreness in my feet. I was very active in sports so i was confused at why it was hurting now. At one point I pulled an achilles tendon and was on crutches for a few weeks till it healed. While at the doctors, he told me I had very flat feet and should look into getting padded soles for my shoes and avoiding hard flat shoes like sandals. My mother promised to get me soles but never ended up doing that. I complained weekly about my feet but got told constantly that it was just growing pains or my foot healing despite being in both feet. Over years the pain slowly got worse and worse, spreading up my leg. I am almost 20 now and cant stand for long without my feet starting to hurt. The longer i stand the pain goes up my leg to my knee, then my hips. It never goes up from there, but just gets sharper and feels like my bones are becoming fiberglass till i physically cannot keep standing. It can take less then 30 minutes to get to that point. I have never gotten help because i am always told its because i am not active (i quit doing basketball and didnt do track bc my feet always hurt, but walked alot at school and didnt band so wasnt completely inactive) i KNOW what pain from inactivity feels like. I used to work out in the weight room, and this isnt that. Its not lazyness or fatigue. Its gotten to the point where mild cleaning will hurt and ill have to sit down for a bit. I know i am at risk for a few health conditions, i have a twin with hypothyroidism (hashimotos specifically) and lupus and cancer running in my family on both sides but havent been diagnosed with anything so far. Is this sounding like anything anyone has heard of before? I’m genuinely worried how I’ll be able to keep up with a job if i cant be on my feet for an hour but I don’t know how to go about figuring out what could be going on. 🥲

Deciding Where to Live..

General Support / by AnonymousWriter43

May 30th, 2024

...See more Anon here, I wasn’t too sure what area this would fit into best so I chose general. Honestly I wanted to request a listener to talk to about this but the one I decided on went offline practically as I sent the request. I barely managed to work up to requesting, so I don’t have the courage to do all that again. Anyways- My current issue is as the title says, deciding where to live. I am 18 and just got out of high school. I usually live with my mother and visit my father on weekends. Now that I don’t have to get ready for school anymore, I’ve been spending more time at my dad’s house. We (me and my twin) talked and at the time agreed we should move over to our dads for starting college because there would be more privacy. However now I’m just not sure. Being completely honest both houses aren’t great. At my mom’s house it’s dirty. I share a room with two younger siblings, one that still wets the bed, so the room is always dirty and smells awful. I never have enough room for any of my stuff and also have to deal with a lot of emotional stuff. My mother is just a lot. She is very demanding of all the attention of the house hold and is constantly going through some new and to be honest, not as serious as she makes it out to be, ordeal that requires everyone’s full attention. Nothing can ever be about anyone else but her. She ignores us and isn’t a great parent. But then I have my step dad that I love to death. He’s a very monotone person but we get each other and he listens to me and we just really get along. I love him and my mom and don’t wanna end up hurting them if I move to my dad’s. Now my dad’s house is a completely different story. My dad is a very aggressive person. He doesn’t hit us or anything, but he yells and gets angry easy. At the same time when I want to talk to him we do have genuine conversations and he actually listens to me. We can debate without having a total shutdown like with my mom. His house is also very clean and I share a room with my twin. (I can’t stand being in the same room as my twin but because the room is bigger at my dads and has less stuff it’s more bearable.) Anyways there are just a lot less people and it’s very chill. The main issue here is that it is TOO relaxed. For the past couple of days I’ve been over here, I have done NOTHING. No chore, no responsibility, nothing. I have woken up late and stayed in my room all day and just been lazy. To most that’s probably a blessing but it makes me feel like a useless human being. It puts me in a very listless mental state when I’m over here and I hate it. I know that could be solved when I get a job, but if I moved over to my dads, I don’t think he would be as helpful/supportive of me getting the job I want, which is as a tattoo artist. I honestly don’t know what I should do. My twin is absolutely fine moving to my dads but (as mean as this is) I know it’s because they don’t WANT to do anything, they are a very lazy person and don’t have very much drive. But I can’t live like that. It’s stressing me out and they keep saying we need to tell mom we want to move but I don’t even know if that will be best for me. Also something important is my parents live very close by, so I would still get to see the other parents regularly, if Yk they don’t hate me for my choice. It would be very helpful if anyone has any advice on how I should go about this. Sorry for my essay, writing helps me think and calm down. Also I just NEED to tell someone.

Unimportant vent :)