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Anthonym0089
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Recently broke up with girlfriend
Relationship Stress / by Anthonym0089
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 May 18th, 2023
...See more I've broken up with her before but this is truly the end. It hurts me very badly and I'm extremely sad at the moment but I know that this is all a phase that I'll be in so to speak. The main reason for the breakup was finances. Also, we had intimacy issues, there was no intimacy which stemmed from finances. I've kept a stable job for several years and I've been paying all the bills and all the financial burden of everything falls on me. Including her car repairs. She continuously job hopped from job to job and was never worried about paying bills. Every time I brought up the fact that she should be paying half it turned into a heated discussion and she would make the statement (Make more pay more). But for the entirety of the 7 years that we have been together, she has only paid the monthly rent about three or four times. I seriously cannot handle the inconsistency. I don't think you need money to be happy, however I do think in a relationship it should be 50/50. When I broke up with her it sealed the deal, she threw things all over the house, put holes in the wall. Stuff got way too crazy so I called the cops which I regret doing. Upon the cops arrival she immediately started saying that I hit her and that I'm an abuser to try and get me arrested. I've never hit her in my life. We do horse around occasionally but there's never an intent of harm. However, I spent the night in a hotel because she had no place to go and I didn't want the situation to get any worse. I question why someone would go to the great lengths to discredit someone they've been with for 7 years. I feel like it was all one big lie. I was just a golden goose paying all the bills while they sat at home lining their pockets just enough so they didn't have to work at all. In reality, I should have broken up a long time ago, I was abused as a child and there was an argument and I can remember where she basically threw it in my face. Anytime we get into an argument, she makes digs at me saying that I might be gay because of the lack of sex in the relationship or that I'm a eunuch. Offensive either way. I've been doing a lot of crying but it will pass, the toxicity is too much, there's a whole lot more that went on. I'm no angel, but to type out everything that happened in 7 years would be a novel. This was the last straw though.
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