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ArashiKurai
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Relationship Stress / by ArashiKurai
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 November 30th, 2022
...See more I've been with my wife for 9 years, we lived together since she got pregnant last 2013, Before She got pregnant, we always have hot times together. But then she suddenly changed, it's like she doesn't want to go near me. I tried to understand that maybe she is pregnant and hormonal, but few months after the baby came out, I tried to be intimate to her again, but she has all this reasons, she's tired, She's not in the mood, etc. Everytime we have sex, it's me who always insisting, she didn't even initiate or have desire to have sex with me even now. So I tried and did lot of things to solve it. We are both working back then and since I work at home, I am the one taking care of my daughter and also doing house chores at the same time so that when she get home, there will be no more things to do but to relax. We had a civil wedding in 2016, expecting that she will be more into it now that she feel more secure. In 2017, I asked her to stop working and be with the kids. But even she stopped working, I never stopped helping at home. After that, there is still no changes, so I asked her, the she told me when I stopped smoking, she will be more into it. So I stopped. I am a heave smoker and that is so hard for me to do, she didn't even care what I am going through when I am in my quitting phase. When I managed to stopped smoking, she has another condition, stop my gaming. And I did. I also loan a house and named it after both of us. I also don't mind if she bought things. She gets whatever she wants. I can't even get things that I really want and need. The only thing that I can think of doing is marrying her in church. Our supposed to be intimate time is so dull and I feel empty. Not only because I am the one who only ask or initiate. But when we do it, she only lay down and I just get on top of her. I don't know what to do anymore. I need advice. Thank you.
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