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Non intimate marriage
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by Averagejoe81
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 July 28th, 2025
...See more Hi, I'm Gary UK 43. Bisexual guy who met my now wife 6 years ago. She is catholic and explained from the start that she wasn't into sex before marriage. I was ok with this and I though more fondly of her for being strong with her devotion to the church. We spoke about having a family and I proposed. We married 2 years ago and we still haven't had sex. This is crippling our relationship. We've had counselling and it hasn't worked. Our counselor and wofe decided she has vaginismus but my wofe is doing very little to change this. I recently found out I can't have children due to having testicular cancer 20 years ago, though I stored sperms at the time and is still available my wife talks about having children and has gone for tests to confirm she is ok for ivf. I've told her that I want to be having regular sex (twice a week for a year) before we consider this. I had regular sex with women and men before this and now I'm worried I may never have sex again if I stay with her. This is really stressing me out. Any help would be great thanks
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