Non intimate marriage
Hi, I'm Gary UK 43. Bisexual guy who met my now wife 6 years ago. She is catholic and explained from the start that she wasn't into sex before marriage. I was ok with this and I though more fondly of her for being strong with her devotion to the church. We spoke about having a family and I proposed. We married 2 years ago and we still haven't had sex. This is crippling our relationship. We've had counselling and it hasn't worked. Our counselor and wofe decided she has vaginismus but my wofe is doing very little to change this. I recently found out I can't have children due to having testicular cancer 20 years ago, though I stored sperms at the time and is still available my wife talks about having children and has gone for tests to confirm she is ok for ivf. I've told her that I want to be having regular sex (twice a week for a year) before we consider this. I had regular sex with women and men before this and now I'm worried I may never have sex again if I stay with her. This is really stressing me out. Any help would be great thanks
@Averagejoe81 Hello Gary, my name is Kimber. Sorry to hear about your situation friend. As a Catholic woman myself, I might be able to find a solution for you somehow. Does your wife show romantic interest (not meaning sexually per say)? It could be a hormonal imbalance or possibly she is going through some unspoken traumas of her own that she never opened up about. I know that I myself put my poor partner through *** sometimes when my perimenopausal attitude kicks into high gear. She even calls me her "puma cub" in a loving way of course. 🤣 I recommend talking to your wife about it over dinner and maybe discussing what might be causing the disturbance in your sexual relationship. I know it is a very difficult topic especially when you have been waiting so long. I wish you the best of luck Gary. If you need guidance on how to approach the topic to your wife or need to vent, I am here for you.
@straightforwardBeechwood1070 thanks for your reply. She shows romantic gestures but nothing sexually. She gets very uncomfortable when I touch her and she finds it very difficult to undress/dress in front of me. We have talked and talked but nothing seems to be happening. Just hope life will sort things out and in the end we'll be happy. Thanks
