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BearfromBrooklyn465
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Relationship Stress / by BearfromBrooklyn465
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 March 18th, 2025
...See more I just went through my first breakup, and it ended amicably enough, but I guess I'm just waiting for the realization to finally sink in. I'm single again after 3 years, August was supposed to be our 4th. I've been in a long-distance relationship since my freshman year of college. They live in Texas, I'm in Michigan. This was the first romantic relationship I've ever had, pretty much all of the firsts. They're graduating in May and I messed up my GPA so badly that I ended up messing up my trajectory to graduate. I entered college in 2021 and am working towards graduating in 2027, and I guess I didn't see much point in changing anything. I was in Michigan, keeping my nose clean, trying to hit the books, and they were in Texas studying, working, and having a life too. Now the relationship's over because they "don't feel it's fair to them" to continue being in a long-distance relationship when they've graduated.  I'm so angry at myself, I feel like a child. I admitted to having a crush on them in sophomore year of high school, they said they didn't feel the same and I accepted that. I moved to Michigan, they asked me to be their girlfriend over a phone call, when I'm a freshman in college miles away. Now it's too hard now after we exchanged promise rings, now after I met their parents and step-parents and siblings, it's unfair for them. I just...I know I'm also at fault, I'm not perfect. But I don't know what to do, I don't have friends to call and complain to, I don't have family members who can relate, and I don't even have a pint of Ben and Jerry's to cry into, so that's why I'm here to scream and kick into the void. I think I just needed to write it all out honestly, I feel numb and dull. It's perfectly sunny outside, but I couldn't feel gloomier if I tried, I just feel low and petulant and unwanted. I know I'll heal from it, but I don't know, maybe I just wanted confirmation from others as well.
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Question: how do I get my younger sibling to wisen up when it comes to “internet dating”?
Relationship Stress / by BearfromBrooklyn465
Last post
 May 17th, 2023
...See more TW: mentions of self harm and su*c*de This is a multi faceted issue, but the shorter context is that my younger sibling has been on the internet for a good while but despite that they keep “dating” random strangers who are nice to them for longer than 10 minutes. They were on *** when they were about 13 and some girl made a stitch video saying she had a crush on my younger sibling. My younger sibling left a comment of a blushing face on the video and then they started talking. My sibling started saying this person was their girlfriend but they never have seen each other in real life and don’t even go to the same school. I didn’t put too much stock in it and eventually the “connection” faded, but now they’re 15 years old and the cycle repeated in the worst way possible. My younger sibling was caught self harming with a razor in school and they’re attending therapy but they recently got in contact with a player on a video game who says they’re 13 (though personally I doubt that) and is exhibiting concerning behavior, such as threatening to “end their life” if my younger sibling doesn’t talk to them at 9 am when they’re literally in school. I want to respect my siblings choices and be a support for them in their mental health journey but it’s driving me nuts getting phone calls and texts about them being extremely anxious over someone they don’t even know ending their life just because my sibling is trying to focus in class. I know it’s cold hearted to think and even say out loud, but there’s just no way a supposedly 13 year old kid would exhibit this kind of controlling behavior. I don’t know how else to explain to my sibling that this person isn’t a boyfriend or even a friend, they’re literally a stranger. I worry that this will exacerbate their feelings of depression and su*c*dal ideation. I told them to just block this person but they never do it. They keep engaging with this person even though they’ve accused my sibling of “cheating” while being in what can barely even be called a situationship. How should I handle this? Should I be the one to handle this? Who should I turn to if this is too big for me to handle? sorry for the long read.
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