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Is it worth trying to arrange things after multiples break-up?
Relationship Stress / by Berryllion
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 April 15th, 2017
...See more My boyfriend and I broke up many times... At least 7 times now. We both have different problems because of our family and we are easily stressed or anxious. He is the one leaving every time, coming back saying it's stupid, because he loved me and bad moments happen, we just have to work to make things better and move on together, "you make me so happy when things are okay, why leave for a sad moment?". But he would return on his words a day or even an hour after, saying he doesn't love me and that he's just staying to not make me sad. It happened again 2 days ago, he left, then came back 2 days after saying he just wants to enjoy those holidays we've been waiting for for so long (we had 2 weeks of tests non-stop). Then he left again at the end of the day. We were resting on his bed (we spent the day out buying stuff to prepare the holidays and we both cried a lot because when we got back together earlier we both told a lot to each other, but at the end of the conversation it was just relief and joy for both of us), and I noticed he had removed all the things I bought him from his room. I asked him where he put it and if he wanted to put them back with me one day (a stupid sentence I realize now). His mood changed completely. He was all tender and happy before and now he had dead eyes and a cold voice. He said "I don't love you anymore, that's why I removed everything, now leave". It was as if he was someone else and it's not the first time it happens but it stills got me :c. I asked him if he had lied all day, he replied yes. Then he gave me my stuff without a glance. I was so shocked and angry I asked to see where the stuff I gave him were. I tore a paper fox into pieces out of anger (another bad decision...) (he said "don't do this in front of me or in my house"...), then we proceeded to choose which one to keep and which to trash. He kept the photos, the plushes, flower with my perfume and a matching bracelet. Then he told threw me out of the house. The day after he sent a text asking if he could pass by to get back one of his plush (a childhood one). So he came. He didn't even look a me and left as if I wasn't there. Now I'm confused on what he trully thinks. When we came back together and during our little shopping to buy holidays stuff, I could see he was genuinely happy... This is the only thing I'm sure of... He was a bit anxious, but still happy and enthusiastic for the days to come, like me. But only one wrong sentence made him change completely. Does he really hated me all along? Should I try to contact him later, after we are both calmer...? He always change his mind in a matter of second, I don't know what to think every time it happens... He shows so much different emotions in one day, when he break-ups at the end of the day it always disconcerts me... A friend dating someone with bipolar disorder told me he may have it too, and so did my grand-mother. It's just a wild guess from them but it gave me food for thoughts :(. Now I am conscious I wasn't carefull enough, and said/did bad things that I realize have hurt him... But is there a chance for us?
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