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Bluepenguin395
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PathStep 4 Compassion hearts139 Forum posts10 Forum upvotes12 Current upvotes12 Age GroupAdult Last activeDecember, 2024 Member sinceMay 29, 2020
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Dealing with jealous partner
Relationship Stress / by Bluepenguin395
Last post
 April 10th, 2022
...See more My long distance boyfriend knows about a friend that I have who is from the same country he is from. The friend had asked me questions that seemed more than friendly, and I had told my LDR about it and he seemed to laugh it off. I am supposed to visit my LDR in two weeks and my friend happens to be in the same airport that I will be on a layover in. My LDR got mad at that and I am trying to reassure him that I have no feelings for the other guy. I sent some apology texts and im not sure if he is ignoring me or not. I just feel really anxious about this and thought I was doing the right thing by telling him about the questions. My LDR also wasn’t really talkative the last two weeks and im not sure if this was because of this situation. I discovered the jealousy yesterday. The last time we talked, we didn’t get in a fight and everything was fine so im just confused on how to proceed.
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His personality seemed to change suddenly
Relationship Stress / by Bluepenguin395
Last post
 April 18th, 2022
...See more I have been with a guy for about a year now and he all of a sudden ghosted me when everything was going well. Then I asked him if he needed space and continued to ghost me. The ghosting is very uncharacteristic of him, and there have been instances where he is quiet and needs to recharge socially, which is not a problem for me. I’m not sure where to go from here - we used to tell each other everything and anything and we were so open to each other, and now I feel like I hear nothing from him and I have to watch what I say (if he ever decides to talk to me again).
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Mixed feelings about long distance boyfriend’s actions
Relationship Stress / by Bluepenguin395
Last post
 March 2nd, 2022
...See more I am having mixed feelings about my long distance boyfriend kissing another girl. We discussed many times what we would do if someone kissed the other person and how we would react. My honest thought was that I wouldn’t care if he kissed another girl as long as it meant nothing to him and I did tell him that. Last night I received a text message saying he was coming back from a bar and a girl had kissed him and asked me if it was ok. I thought it was nice that he asked me coming back from the bar and I asked him a few questions about the kiss which he answered. I know he wasn’t saying it to hurt me, so I wasn’t angry with him. I was honestly happy he got kissed so he could enjoy himself since he had been stressed recently. However, the more time passes, I feel uneasy that he kissed a girl but I don’t want to bring the subject up to him all day long after telling him to not worry about one kiss. He is also one of my closest friends, and I don’t want to lose him as a friend. He’s the person I talk to for everything. I wanted to make him not worry about the kiss and told him I was happy he told me, but I am still sad that it happened since the kiss was with another girl.
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How to approach quiet friend
Relationship Stress / by Bluepenguin395
Last post
 March 2nd, 2022
...See more I became super close with one friend since last May, and we would talk about anything all day long. We told each other everything and could go on for hours about the same topic. All of a sudden, he’s like a light switch and completely changed over one weekend. He has become quiet and distant and I have no idea what to talk to him about anymore. He is stressed with work, and he has admitted that he has been cold in his responses. I miss talking to him every day and I want to help him feel better. I’m not sure how to bring up his quietness and the fact that I’m getting upset without making it sound like everything is his fault
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Boyfriends depressive mood spreads to me
Relationship Stress / by Bluepenguin395
Last post
 December 19th, 2021
...See more My boyfriend gets depressed when he’s stressed about work or family and he becomes very quiet and distant. His feelings spread to me and then I will also feel stressed and anxious too. I always feel like he loses feelings when he’s like this and there’s no affection, if I try to show him affection he doesn’t return it and any communication with him just feels empty. I told him how I feel about this and I don’t want to get upset or angry with him because these are issues he needs to figure out in his own time, and I will support him with it. When he was feeling better, I did tell him how it made me feel bad to see him so down and he said that I need to take care of myself first and don’t worry about his problems. When he is happy, we have a great time and we can talk about the future. When he is down, he can be a completely different person and it feels difficult to have a conversation with him. I am worried about losing him since he supports me so much and cares. I don’t want to tell him that I’m feeling down because he’s the one doing it because I don’t want to make him feel worse. I would just like him to be happy again so we can joke and talk all day like before
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Stress spreads to me
Relationship Stress / by Bluepenguin395
Last post
 December 14th, 2021
...See more My long distance boyfriend gets stressed with work and family and then has depressive thoughts. I want to help him more, but I don’t want him to feel like I always think he is stressed. When he feels down, I feel bad too and then I feel stressed and depressed too. I talked to him about it, but it’s always hard to figure out when he will get in these low moods. Every time he feels this way, I feel like I’m losing him
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Stress spreads to me
Relationship Stress / by Bluepenguin395
Last post
 January 1st, 2022
...See more My long distance boyfriend gets stressed with work and family and then has depressive thoughts. I want to help him more, but I don’t want him to feel like I always think he is stressed. When he feels down, I feel bad too and then I feel stressed and depressed too. I talked to him about it, but it’s always hard to figure out when he will get in these low moods. Every time he feels this way, I feel like I’m losing him
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