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He cheated 20+ years ago. What an I suppose to do?
Relationship Stress / by BrOKen168
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 July 22nd
...See more My husband (42M) recently told me that he cheated on me (40F) during the first 5 years of our relationship. He basically said he was with anyone willing during that time including my then and still now best friend. I’m completely blindsided from both of them and don’t know how or what to feel. We’ve been married now 20 years. His response to me being upset was that it doesn’t matter anymore because it was such a long time ago and he would never do that now. He said he regrets telling me  it now and just wants us to forget about it and move on. All I’ve been able to do is keep things as normal as possible. We have kids and I don’t want to tell them. But all I keep thinking is why wasn’t I enough? And was I really who he wanted to marry or did he just do it because I was there and he was comfortable with me.  I was hoping to hear how others have coped with this kind of betrayal and/or from someone who learned years later of the cheating. Thank you. 
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