The secret to happiness lies in giving less fuck about life. Negativity attracts more negativity. For e.g if somebody you love leaves you. What does it mean? Does it mean there is something wrong with you? Do you doubt whether you will find love again? What are these? These are negative thoughts, right? If you live with this state of mind, do you think you will be able to attract the right kind of person? Do you think you will be energized about getting things done in time? If you are a student, you may end up failing in your exams. So now you are a person with a broken heart plus a person who failed in exams. When nothing is going right people try to escape their problems by distracting themselves. They may choose to drink or smoke because it is the easiest way to change bio-chemistry of the body or they may try distract themselves away with their thoughts. In either way you are affecting your health. By drinking and smoking you are abusing your physical health and by thinking unnecessarily you are abusing your mental health. So now you are a person with broken heart + exam failure + unhealthy body/mind. We all know how much importance such people get in real life. People often end up having anxiety or depression in such situations. I hope you are able to relate and see the pattern here, how one thing leads to another.
So now what’s the way out. The best way is to quickly snap out of your problems. Imagine there is a train which is running at a very low speed. Now if somebody will build a wall in front of it what will happen? It will stop, right? If the same train is running at a very high speed what will happen? It will break the wall into pieces. This is true about life also. At least, for once we all have lived in a state where everything seems to be in a flow. You need to maintain that flow even in the tough times. When you are in shit don’t just stay there, do something to get out of it. I’ll tell you how to do it.
First step, change the way your breath. Notice is it shallow or full.
Second step, change the way you use your body. Is it tight or loose.
Third step, change your focus.
Close your eyes and tell yourself to look for brown for at least five times. Now open your eyes and see how many brown things are there in your room. Now close your eyes again and tell yourself to look for red this time. Do you still see that much brown this time? This is the secret here. You get more of what you look for. So the question is what are you going to look for, positivity or negativity? Negativity literally kills you. Even i sound like a retard when i am occupied with negativity. When you go to somebody like this, seeking some help, there are chances people will ignore you. Nobody enjoys listening to pain except few good people. So appreciate all the listeners who are willingly lending their ears to you. Apart from that be your own listener. Come to me i will teach you how to be one. I will not feed you fish for a day but i will teach you how to catch one.

Seek and you shall find.. ask and you shall receive.

Did you ever stop to help someone
stuck beside the road?
Or help a person carry bags
to their car for them to load?
These opportunities lend themselves
to us most every day.
Yet many times we turn our heads
and look the other way.
I'm not saying GOD is watching
to see if you're polite.
I'm saying we could be more helpful
if we want to do what's right.
We wouldn't lose a lot of time
by rendering some aid.
And who knows... down the road...
kindness may be repaid...:)