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Channa845
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Can anyone educate me about BPD?
Personality Disorders Support / by Channa845
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 January 13th, 2023
...See more I have or had a friend who has borderline personality disorder. He's a great guy and we got along pretty well, I can't say that I've ever had a friend that I was as comfortable around as I was with him. He was like a brother to me and whenever something happened or whenever I came across something interesting, I'd usually think "X would love this", he was the friend at the forefront of my mind. We had started talking to each other at a point when neither of us had many friends, so we were each other's go to, time went by and we both made some more friends of our own but at some point, we started talking less and less and I'd be waiting on a reply from him for days or even weeks, there were times when I'd wonder what exactly I was staying around for. He's mentioned that he has issues with keeping relationships, he sometimes gets carried away when a new person comes around and they would 'consume' him for lack of a better word. I knew that he was spending more time with his other friends and he even mentioned it to me. There was another time when I told him about another friend I had made because I was really happy to have met that person and he got jealous I guess, said how I didn't need him any more and tried to leave and push me away. At the time, I said I wouldn't stop him if he really wanted to leave, he couldn't be the only friend I had, but if he wanted to, he could take some time to cool off and then we could talk. He agreed with that and so we talked about it a few days later. Sometimes I wouldn't hear from him for a while but then he'd come around because he messed up somewhere or something happened and he needed some advice. I didn't mind for a while but then it felt like that was all I was good for. So at some point, I built up my resolve and left. He noticed and brought it up, said sorry, don't know if he even knew what he was apologizing for but it ended, I was tired and didn't feel like pushing anymore. But I still worry. A part of me says that he didn't mind the loss at all and that he's completely fine but another part can't help but worry. I don't think I truly understood what was going on in his head and it's already too late for both of us but I'd still like to learn about it if there's anyone willing to educate me
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Hi, I'm new here. I need some help
Friendship Support / by Channa845
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 January 12th, 2023
...See more What's the right way to feel about leaving a friendship? I decided to let go of a friend a few days ago, blocked them but they found somewhere else to talk. They apologized and asked if there was any way to fix it, I don't know if they even knew what they were apologizing for or if they were doing it to keep me around. I know better than anyone how familiarity can make you want to stay somewhere even if it's not working, and it stopped working a while ago. It just got finalized, like actually finalized and I'm not sure how to feel. The first time, I was just detached, didn't really care and just went on like normal We were really close and they were someone that I felt really comfortable just being me around, I still Iove them a lot but I got tired of feeling like a second option. They would find time for their new friends and even mention how they were spending time with them to me sometimes, we went from talking everyday to every other day with me just waiting on them. I had been wanting to leave for a long time and I finally found it in myself to do it. I guess what I'm asking is if I did the right thing, I'm going to be alone from now on~vent What's the right way to feel about leaving a friendship? I decided to let go of a friend a few days ago, blocked them but they found somewhere else to talk. They apologized and asked if there was any way to fix it, I don't know if they even knew what they were apologizing for or if they were doing it to keep me around. I know better than anyone how familiarity can make you want to stay somewhere even if it's not working, and it stopped working a while ago. It just got finalized, like actually finalized and I'm not sure how to feel. The first time, I was just detached, didn't really care and just went on like normal. This time though, I feel really sad, I had set my hopes on us being friends for years and it really felt that way for some time. I'm starting to wonder if maybe I shot them down too quickly. We were really close and they were someone that I felt really comfortable just being me around, I still Iove them a lot but I got tired of feeling like a second option. They would find time for their new friends and even mention how they were spending time with them to me sometimes, we went from talking everyday to every other day with me just waiting on them. I had been wanting to leave for a long time and I finally found it in myself to do it. I guess what I'm asking is if I did the right thing, I'm going to be alone from now on
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