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Charlotte996 |
Listener - Supporter 7

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5.0 star rating

I'm a South African woman living in Japan and it certainly won't be my last time moving countries.  

I have finished my undergraduate degree in psychology as well as my psychology honors degree, so I have studied psychology for quite a few years. As I am taking a break from studying, I still want to be able to put these skills to good use and help people who either don't feel they need to go see a therapist, or just can't afford the sky-high fees.

I am an open, kind, yet firm-handed person. Supporting my listeners is my main objective, but brining to attention possible faulty thoughts and defense mechanisms is very much a part of my approach (see below for more). I am here to listen since everyone needs different things at different moments.

I have had anxiety for as long as I can remember, so I can also relate to most of the problems brought on by it. I have found ways to help me control it and feel that I can help someone learn ways that will help them! I have also dealt with people who have social anxiety, as well as being a shoulder to cry on for many friends going through hardships.

Having moved to a new country, one so different from my own, I have also been through the ups and downs of changing your entire life so drastically. So, if you're an expat struggling with adaption and resilience, I can lend a sympathetic shoulder to cry on.  

Given my history in psychology, I try to implement the therapeutic techniques I've learned. My main focus is on thoughts and thought patterns, meaning I try to identify negative or faulty thought patterns, and then try to correct them in a way that helps a listener deal with their thoughts more effectively and build defense mechanisms that heal rather than hurt. This can be a daunting and sometimes helpless path, but it truly is what helped me control my anxiety in most situations. 
Number of Ratings: 13
Number of Reviews: 11
Listens to Over 18
Languages English, Afrikaans
Listener Since Feb 10, 2020
Last Active over 6 months ago
Gender Female
Progress Path Step 45
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Feedback & Reviews
Loved it! Awesome chat!
Charlotte was very easy to talk to and quite down to earth. Would happily chat with again :)
Loved it! Awesome chat!
Charlotte was very helpful she gave me a lot of helpful information and was very kind!
Very supportive
Loved it! Awesome chat!
loved it! awesome chat!
Charlotte was incredibly compassionate, and gave a lot of gentle support and encouragement for the situation I'm working through. I so appreciate the time she gave me
She's so smart, sweet and wise.
Kind and caring. Thoughtful responses
Charlotte is really nice. I have been alone with my problems and thoughts for a long time. She made time for me and listened to all I said. And really understood me. She motivated on my pursuit. A great help during a time of despair.
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Questions Answered
Do i need to seek a therapist if I am depressed?
April 7th, 2020 11:42pm
I hava a depressed friend who is grieving .I am unable to approach her.She only pushes me away and I am unable to care.We dont talk when we are left alone.What I can do for her ?
August 31st, 2020 7:40am
What are triggers and how do I know if I have one?
July 2nd, 2020 1:43am
Why would someone who is already in pain wish to inflict it upon others?
May 21st, 2020 3:52am
Is it normal to be bullied for being different?
March 1st, 2021 12:37am
Everyone in school thinks I am bitter. How can I change their minds?
May 21st, 2020 3:40am
How do I show my friends and family that I do want to get better?
April 7th, 2020 11:39pm
What is body dysmorphia?
June 25th, 2020 1:07am
What are the main symptoms of panic attacks?
June 12th, 2020 12:11am
How can I try to remember to breathe and try to remain calm?
August 31st, 2020 7:38am
What should I do if I end up crying, and I find myself struggling to breathe?
July 2nd, 2020 1:39am
Why do we feel the fear of rejection?
February 1st, 2021 11:55pm
Constantly Thinking Disorder: is it a real thing?
June 12th, 2020 12:18am
How to stop overthinking things in a relationship?
June 25th, 2020 11:31pm
How will I ever be able to start my transition and become who I really am?
April 7th, 2020 11:35pm
Do I miss the person, or the relationship?
May 21st, 2020 3:37am
Why do I always blame myself for the breakup?
June 25th, 2020 1:02am
I'm dating someone who has cheated in the past. What should I do?
September 4th, 2020 11:00pm
I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?
June 12th, 2020 12:13am
Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?
June 26th, 2020 12:49am
How do I know if I'm in a toxic relationship?
June 26th, 2020 12:46am
How to get over someone you have to see everyday?
September 2nd, 2020 5:06am
Is 4 to 6 months is long enough to get over someone you had an amazing relationship for 2 years?
February 1st, 2021 11:44pm
How to make my little sister nicer?
April 7th, 2020 11:37pm
How much exercise is too much?
September 2nd, 2020 5:12am
Why is exercise important for me?
June 12th, 2020 12:05am
Am I allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional abuse 3 years after it happened?
July 2nd, 2020 1:46am
How do you tell your friend that you disagree with them without hurting their feelings?
June 25th, 2020 1:16am