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ChillingHen
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feeling worthless
Relationship Stress / by ChillingHen
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 June 15th, 2019
...See more There are a few issues Im hoping to get some feedback on and work through but this one is super relevant in my present life. Anyone have advice for me? Male perspective maybe? My husband has expressed his undying love to me in many ways. I love him and if he left I know my heart could handle another relationship. Anyway, he works at a salon (all women) and is friends with pretty much all of his exs. Ive never been shy around strangers but around people I know will be in my life or that I feel like I have to impress influences my brain to shut down (cant think cant talk right). I try to be myself but its REALLY hard. His comments about the woman at work have made me insecure but the biggest issue are his exs. He talks to all of them and hangs out with one in particular (with me or other people). She just got divorced and is in a new relationship but shes always held a flame for him and a secret hatred for me. Theyve been friends since high school so when we hang out Im the third wheel and she doesnt try to include me. She loves the attention (gives him side glances, touches his arm, makes inside jokes) Ive tried to communicate that this makes me feel uncomfortable but my husband puts everyone else before me in social situations anyway so he doesnt understand why; he tells me to stop worrying and that Im overreacting. I care about what this girl thinks of me because my husband cares for her but I hate her and I try not to hate anyone. Idk how to act or what to do. There are so many women in his life that I could be in this situation with someone else in the future too. My husband tells me Im the only one he can relax around so thats why hes so much more annimated with others (its a facade).
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