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Claire5678
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Relationship Stress / by Claire5678
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 November 15th, 2016
...See more My partner of 6+ years and I are breaking up. Recently I have being feeling insecure, we are engaged and have planned children, but despite me asking about when it will happen I never have a definitive answer. I understand that with our situation we can't plan anything. But this has been ongoing. He's very laid back and I'm not. Recently I have been analysing his friendship with another woman, all very innocent and he has shown me their messages. But I have fixated on her and can't seem to control my jealousy, I'm uncomfortable about him spending social time with her and messaging when it isn't necessary and it feels as though he doesn't really care how it makes me feel, it's something I have to deal with. He feels as though I am telling him what he can and can't do, and that underneath all of this I don't trust him. He has a physical problem that means currently we can't have sex, yet he won't go to the doctor. I believe that I feel insecure in relationship and that she is just a catalyst and realistically she probably isn't even interested in him and vice versa. But I just can't let it go. I'm always worrying about things that haven't happened. I have said I will go to counselling, but ultimately he won't do anything. I have to accept him, and how he is, but I have to change (I want to change to help us) but I can't do it on my own. We are not fighting and are still being kind to each other, but we have said we will split up as it isn't healthy.
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