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Handling a bad experience with a Listener
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 January 30th, 2021
...See more I hope this is the correct place to post this. I'm looking to get feedback and advice regarding an experience with a listener. I would like to take be proactive. I was talking a Listener about a traumatic event. While in the middle of explaining what had happened, I was asked if I was venting or if I actually needed help with a problem. The Listener was somewhat polite, but I did find this to not be a knowledgable approach to handling another person's trauma. i do understand most people are not trained in a trauma-informed approach. I do understand the difference between venting and constructive problem solving. We had been talking for a period of time and maybe the Listener was wondering where the conversation was heading exactly. There may have been a more skilled way of approaching the situation. I was left feeling invalidated and deflated. Unfortunately, the moment he chose to ask was directly in the middle of a very real and raw piece of the story. I wasn't sure when the conversation itself was going to have a conclusion. I was going with the flow of the conversation. I blocked the user and I left a small summary of what had happened. I think what would have been more beneficial was if I had given direct feedback to the user. I was too emotional to do so at the time.
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