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...See more I've suffered from depression since I was a teenager. over the years I've learned to manage it to the point where it doesnt impact my life so much. I can still work and take care of other responsibilities until the depression has passed. However I'm in a relationship now with someone whose moods and behaviour can be very volatile. Shes had a difficult up bringing, which has left her very insecure in lots of ways. she doesnt handle stress or problems very well, usually getting disproportionally angry over small things. The biggest problem is that things get taken very personally. When I phoned her up to tell her that I was going to have to go to the doctor and that I wouldnt be up to seeing her that weekend she got very angry. She accused me of being selfish. She was upset that I hadnt talked to her about my depression. This is because I know how she usually takes it personally and then gets angry with me. She also was very offended that id been able to go to work, but wasnt up to seeing her. I do a practical job and find doing something physical helps me to work through the depression. I had to hang the phone up as I just couldn't cope with her laying into me. I text one of her relatives to call her. The same thing happened the next day when we spoke. This kind of thing has happened frequently when weve had problems. Its bad enough when Im not depressed but right now its unbearable. I just need to feel that I can ask for some space, or to be given the benefit of the doubt when Im struggling but I just cant communicate that to her without her taking offence. I just dont know what to do.

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