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DaniTechnicolor22
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Married 12 years and she is asking to open the marriage.
Relationship Stress / by DaniTechnicolor22
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 September 25th, 2022
...See more We’ve been best friend since 11 and 15. We are 35 and 39 now with 3 sons and almost 12 years married. She has extensive trauma history and recently (1.5 years ago) went through equine assisted trauma therapy. We grew up in the Bible Belt and my beliefs, rather indoctrination, is wildly conservative. I’ve struggled to move past those early ideas but a lot has stuck with me and it’s become a fork in the road for our marriage and even friendship. It’s difficult to understand her needs at this point. She is beautiful, has gone viral on iG and TIkTok. Some local followers reached out and she began entertaining emotional relationships with these people and has had some physical and certainly emotional intimacy with more than one person. She identified as lesbian when we married, with an agreement that she would have a serious girlfriend at some point (which never panned out). Now 11.5 years into marriage she “finds inspiration” from males trying to pursue much more than a friendship. I’m chastised for jealousy, wanting to be included but she is so guarded and quickly angered when I try to be a part of it. She’s threatened divorce and every other way to insist that these relationships will remain in her life regardless of my feelings. I can accept friends of the opposite sex but it really hurts to have my personal life shared with others as well as her developing relationships that have no part of our bond. Anyone experienced losing a spouse to social media? I’m not looking for a fix, more so similar experiences and how others have dealt with this. Thanks all, have a great day!!
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