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Number of ratings44 Number of reviews13 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceFeb 26, 2015 Last activein last month GenderFemale PathStep 816 People helped69 Chats484 Group support chats221 Listener group chats345 Forum posts415 Forum upvotes458
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I have a passion for counselling and I am striving for a career in this area of expertise.

Confidentiality is first and foremost, and I hold boundaries with the same high regard. You are under no obligation to share information with me if it makes you uncomfortable.



It is difficult for Listeners not to sound "like a robot" as we need to provide confidentiality not just for the individual, but also for ourselves. We must remain impartial and refrain from giving advice.

Counselling is also known as "talking therapy" and we do exactly that. We help the individual come to their own conclusions and to do this, we must refrain from the possibility of leading the individual to an answer that may prove more harmful than helpful.

So even though it may be (understandably) frustrating, it is more reliably effective than giving potentially harmful advice. It also helps the individual to maintain a level of independence by coming to their own conclusions without being lead to an answer.

I hope this isn't a deterrent from looking for support from one of the Listeners available here as we have each individuals best interests in mind throughout each of our sessions.

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Who am I?
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by DipityEnigma
Last post
 March 27th
...See more In a world so full of possibilities, it can be difficult not to get lost in the fold. With so many different people, personalities, and lifestyles; it can be difficult to maintain who you truly are as an individual. It can prove complicated to stay true to yourself especially with the ever growing need to fit it and be accepted, even by people you don't know. The reality is, "fitting in" isn't realistic. When we think of this term, we typically think of every person we meet liking us in one way or another, but that simply isn't realistic. We are individuals which means we cannot fit into one big criteria. We all have our likes and dislikes, which is why there are a variety of different movies, tv shows, and music genres; they cater to a large populace. As they say, "The world would be a boring place if we were all the same." Some of us tragically end up losing ourselves, myself included, at one point or another for various reasons. Some of the more common reasons are: bullying, relationships, and societies idealistic views. The term, "Telling me what I want to hear," is often stated because that is exactly what some of us do, usually subconsciously. We're afraid of being judged for telling others our opinions on something as it may be misconstrued as a factual statement. We may also start to wear clothes we don't feel comfortable in just so we can avoid unnecessary confrontation. We all just want to be ourselves and live our lives as happy as possible, even if that means sacrificing a part of ourselves to do that. ------------------------- So, here are some questions that may help others in this sort of situation: How do you stay true to who you are? How do you drown out the voices of self-doubt and/or conditioning from others around you? ------------------------- Thank you in advance for partaking in this theory.
Is it really that simple, though?
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by DipityEnigma
Last post
 March 23rd
...See more We all see it on a daily basis and have experienced it to some extent: Invalidation. This is the process of removing someone's validity from their own experiences. For example: Person 1: "They made me feel like I wanted to cry. They spoke to me like I was wasting their time with my problem. I don't feel comfortable seeing them again." Person 2: "Maybe you misunderstood them or they didn't mean it like that. You're probably just being paranoid. Just try again and then see how you feel." This actively forces the person to feel like their experiences and emotions don't matter. What the first person states in this scenario is very important to them. Let's look at that again. ------------------------- Person 1: "They made me feel like I wanted to cry. They spoke to me like I was wasting their time with my problem. I don't feel comfortable seeing them again." ------------------------- How do you think "Person 1" is feeling in this moment? What reasons do you think they could have for feeling this way? Now let's take a look at "Person 2": ------------------------- Person 2: "Maybe you misunderstood them or they didn't mean it like that. You're probably just being paranoid. Just try again and then see how you feel." ------------------------- How do you think "Person 2" made "Person 1" feel in this scenario? How do you think they could have approached this differently? We typically don't like to think the worst of someone, especially if they are a qualified expert in their field. You don't expect someone of such high regard to act or say things that may be deemed inappropriate, especially when "they should know better," but the reality is, we are all human. Sometimes we allow our emotions and/or personal life to take control over a situation rather than taking the individual into consideration. This can then lead to a person feeling regret for how they handled a situation when they find out information they didn't know about the person they were speaking with. Can you give an example of when someone may feel regret and/or remorse for how they handled a situation? Thank you in advance for partaking in this theory. To make things easier, here are the questions in an easy copy-and-paste format: How do you think "Person 1" is feeling in this moment? What reasons do you think they could have for feeling this way? How do you think "Person 2" made "Person 1" feel in this scenario? How do you think they could have approached this differently? Can you give an example of when someone may feel regret and/or remorse for how they handled a situation?
PFP Stories
Reading & Writing / by DipityEnigma
Last post
 December 23rd, 2022
...See more I had the idea that we could come up with stories about our PFPs. Making something up for fun based on them. Here’s the story I’ve written about my PFP: The Earth, otherwise known as Mr Hue Manne B. Reather was sitting watching “How not to spin” on TV when his dog, otherwise known as Cray Thor, started bouncing up and down excitedly. Well, Mr Reather thought he wanted to play and took out his Meat-eor ball and started playing fetch. The dog wasn’t having any of it and huffed space dust at him in disdain. Mr Reather looked at him confused. “Ah!” he thought to himself. “Perhaps he’s hungry.” So off to the kitchen he went with Cray in tow. He grabbed a can of Argon-40 and flopped it into a bowl before putting it on the ground. Cray sniffed the contents, lifted his head and then stuck his tongue out at Mr Reather before turning and bouncing off. Mr Reather followed Cray into the hallway where he saw his dog bouncing up and down erratically at the leash. “You want out?” he asked Cray. “Ssssnarf! Ssssnarf!” Cray barked. “Why didn’t you just say that to begin with?!” So Mr Reather put the leash on Cray and went off for a jolly walk down to the park. The End. Disclaimer: please remember to adhere to the guidelines [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/SafetyGuidelines_1374/ForumGuidelinesExpanded10CommunityGuidelines_182406/] when making your posts. Please remember to keep all stories family friendly.
What's that song?
Music & Dance / by DipityEnigma
Last post
 December 31st, 2022
...See more Post a sentence from the lyrics of a song and people have to try to guess which song it is. If you guess it right, post another sentence from the lyrics of a song. Easy start: "I don't care, I don't care so call me crazy" Disclaimer: please remember to follow the guidelines [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/SafetyGuidelines_1374/ForumGuidelinesExpanded10CommunityGuidelines_182406/] when making your posts. Swearing is prohibited and must be censored with asterisks (*). Thank you for your cooperation.
One of my drawings.
Arts & Crafts / by DipityEnigma
Last post
 December 23rd, 2022
...See more I drew this picture in 2018 and there's a backstory to this one. I was in a cafe and was inspired to draw something as they were selling drawings and photos that people from the community brought in. I got to know the people there and asked if I could draw something and bring it in. So I drew the picture below and took it into them. I wasn't bothered about the money, I just wanted to share my love for drawing but when I took in the picture, the guy said to me that he really liked it and wanted it for himself and wouldn't take no for an answer for payment of it. So he gave me a small amount for it which I then put into the tip jar 😂 The cafe closed unfortunately but this was the picture. I had considered making it into a series at that time. Haha. Anyone else have any drawings with a backstory? 😊 If you'd like to see more drawings, let me know. I don't currently have more but I do want to get back into it. If you'd like me to tag you in future posts with my drawings, please type TAG in your post and feel free to tag me in any of yours 😍 Tag: @audienta
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