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EmLou87xo
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Not coping after Dismissal.
Personality Disorders Support / by EmLou87xo
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 July 9th, 2017
...See more Hi. I'm new here and needing a lot of support at the minute. My ex walked out on me 6 weeks ago. He's got a NPD (not diagnosed). We where together 6yrs and have a child together. It been a tough 6yrs. He's left me twice before in the time. In May 2014 for 2 weeks, in May 2015 for 6 weeks and now in May for well ever since. He blames me for him leaving when in reality it's because of his drinking problem and the fact I've tried to get him to sort it for the sake of the children. He's been abusive, violent, all the blame has been put onto me. He's told everyone I'm a bad person and I won't let him see the kids, when really he hasn't bothered with them in the the time he's been gone. In the weeks before he left though his drinking was getting OTT. He was passed out every weekend around the children. Which is of course my fault. And every time I confronted him about it was a fat ugly mess that doesn't deserve him! I know I should be greatful that I don't have the abuse or drinking in my life anymore but like a true victim of narcissism I can't get my heat around the sudden dismissal. I can't stop thinking about the happy him and the him that was a great BF and dad. I can't help but blame myself when I know it's not my fault! I'm struggling so so much. I don't have the luxury of cutting contact. I've tried. He just turns up at my house. He's spent 1hr30 minutes with the kids in 6 weeks and when I tell him that they deserve better than that I'm called bitter. I need help. Advice.
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