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EmberAndAsh
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Relationship Stress / by EmberAndAsh
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 April 26th, 2023
...See more You can call me Ember. Nice to be here, really need advice or courage, not sure which yet. My relationship is LGBT, so if you don't agree with it or don't have topical advice, please just don't answer. I am a 23(f) , my fiance is a 21(f). We are both polyamorous, and have discussed what that means at length, although we haven't actually gone out and went on a date with another person yet. Poly for us looks like one of us dating another person, not both of us dating the same person. My fiance is asexual, while I am not. I am 100% okay with that, and will never force her to do anything.M y relationship with her is rock solid, and not the one im worried about. I have this friend, 24(m). We've been friends for over 5 years. There was a conversation we had 8 months ago, where we were talking over ***, or the phone I don't remember, and I told him I liked him. He didn't immediately say anything about that. I told him that I and my fiance was poly, and I had already talked to my fiance about him, and she was fine with it. I told him I didn't want to ruin our friendship, so if me saying I liked him was as far as anything would get, I would be fine with it. The conversation ended there, as he said he needed to think about some things before he got back to me. He texted me a couple of days later saying he was drunk and wanted to send this while he's got what it takes to say it, that he liked me too, and wants to go out with me very badly as well, but that he's figuring some stuff out in his own life, and had mixed feelings. He wanted to talk about this at some point. I asked him the next day if he remembers what he sent to me, and he said yes. That's as far as I took that conversation. We've been the same friends since, and I don't want to lose that. However recently my thoughts have been turning to him more and I don't think I can ignore them anymore. To make things even more complicated, in the next few years I'm planning on moving into the house he has with his dad to help run their Air BnB. It's a whole mish-mosh of complications and I don't know what to do. Please help. If you have clarifying questions, please don't hesitate to ask.
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