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Wedding in 3 months; do I call it off?
Relationship Stress / by Evasic
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 July 19th, 2024
...See more It’s so hard to fit a 4 year relationship into one post. 99% of the time it’s been so good. He’s caring, sweet, attentive. Plans dates, cooks me dinner, gets me flowers every few weeks. Words of affirmation and encouragement. I’m so comfortable with him and we’re so happy together. The trouble is when we argue, he turns into a completely different person. He’s unrecognizable, it’s so hard to believe my sweet man could change so much. He gets extremely dismissive and avoidant. He’s sarcastic and rude, mocking me and name calling and insulting me. I’ve begged him to please sit with me and communicate calmly like we care about each other and he outright says no. I ask what’s bothering him and how can I fix it and apologize and he says “figure it out.” I’m so frustrated. I’ve asked if we could please try something different to communicate better and he refuses to try. We never argue about anything serious, there’s no infidelity or issues like that. It’s all dumb arguments. Is him being unwilling to try to communicate with me the end of the road for us? He’ll ghost me for days at a time and it kills me, I can’t eat or sleep. But he seems totally fine, able to laugh and have fun with his friends. Completely unbothered. I love him, my family loves him, the wedding is coming up so soon. What do I do?
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