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Finesse001
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Sad, exhausted, feeling guilty
Family & Caregivers / by Finesse001
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December 7th, 2021
...See more My daughter is sweet. She has 3 kids. 11 months, 4 and 8 all from different dads. She’s recently left the father of her youngest. He violently threw the 8 year old to the ground and stood on him. No serious injury luckily. Whilst this behaviour had not been seen before, his treatment of mr 8 has always been degrading and verbally berating him. Being quite mean to him. Mr 8 loves him and blames himself for the split up. His momma went straight to the cops and had him arrested. Mr 8 is devastated. All 4 of them are now staying with me (only for a few days) and my husband of 10 years (who is not that supportive) I’m not coping. I’m not coping with the kids, the noise, the mess, the emotional luggage and the sadness for my oldest grandchild who just wants a dad. . I’m being snappy with them myself. I’m thinking that she should have listened to me about waiting to have that baby (only knew him 8 months when she fell pregnant) and typical dictator mother stuff. She has no friends. Not one who lives nearby and so her entire emotional support is from me. But I’m not coping with it. This is the 3rd time. Im reallly not able to be the loving supportive mother this time. Her choice of shite men stems from her loneliness ~ so it’s highly likely this pattern will occur again. Her dad has moved overseas too so it’s just me. I can’t shake the feeling of being a bad mum. A failure in the eyes of society and that makes me feel incredibly guilty. I know it’s not about me but it feels like it really is. Argh. Im so sad. I can’t sleep and I’m so stressed. Poor kids. 😞
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