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FolioGirl26
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He wanted kids and I'm not ready
Relationship Stress / by FolioGirl26
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 January 4th, 2021
...See more I ( 23F) ended my relationship with my fiancé (46M) on NYE after telling him that I’m not ready to have children. I told him I still want to get married but I want to wait a year to two years before having kids but he wasn’t willing to compromise.When we met he did say that he wanted to have kids and I honestly thought I was capable of doing it because I loved him so much and we would make it work. He agreed to get married and even convert to my religion before we have a kid. But he also had a list of demands he wanted me to do, like get braces, get my Masters Degree. Then he said he didn’t want us living together right after we got married because he wanted to buy a home first. So he was expecting me to raise a baby at home with my parents. And he lives 5 hrs away from me so I know he won’t be around all the time. Now I do realize that I was being groomed into the perfect trophy wife. I do admit that I ignored some red flags. Anyways this past week he introduced me to his family and he’s never done that with anyone he’s been with before and he told a few of his friends that we were engaged. So when I ended things he was embarrassed that he would have to go back and tell everyone our relationship is over. I am devastated because I truly care for him but he has completely stopped communicating with me since everything happened. It’s hard to stop talking to someone that you spoke to everyday for the past year and a half. I know I made the right decision because I felt a sense of relief, but I’m completely heart broken and I’m trying to get through this. Was I in the wrong ? Did I lead him on ?
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