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PathStep 164 Compassion hearts55 Forum posts33 Forum upvotes59 Current upvotes59 Age GroupAdult Last activeMay, 2021 Member sinceMarch 7, 2021
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What is decompensating?
Depression Support / by FoolsSelf
Last post
 March 27th, 2021
...See more I kind of get it. But I don't really. Something to do with shutting down and being unable to verbally speak. Is it with trying to decide what I say? Writing is easier.
What gets you out of bed in the morning?
50 & Over Community / by FoolsSelf
Last post
 July 1st, 2022
...See more My bladder. I'm 54, so yeah. My bladder.😅
Meeting people when I have a 'compromised' skillset for understanding what people mean
Anxiety Support / by FoolsSelf
Last post
 April 11th, 2021
...See more My life before a minor brain injury was not too unusual excepting my time working abroad for an NGO assisting people and teaching English. My best skillset was relating with people to assist them in accomplish their goals for a better life. Now my organizational skills are poor and decision making often takes time because of a minor brain injury. People regard me as well educated and intelligent often because I have a progious vocabulary still. However it sometimes takes me an inordinate amount of time to determine which meaning of many possible meanings someone is expressing. I don't know how else to put it. I am trying to cope with these circumstances. I endeavor to believe whatever is the kindest meaning is the one to decide they meant - whenever kindness is an aspect of the conversation. Obviously, even in trivial situations people can be rude. Like if I am trying to exit the grocery store at the same time as someone else. A kind response from me can sound like sarcasm in such an instance. I don't know if I have a point. I'm considering going into therapy to develop coping skills from this situation. I don't understand why it is difficult to comprehend intent or whatever. I know the cause. I just don't understand why relating is more challenging. It doesn't seem that presuming everyone is kind is a useful presumption. I have made a new friend and been in two long term relationships which were disastrous. All three people were extremely self-interested. My last relationship was with a very manipulative, abusive narcissist. I'm not sure why I attract such people. I don't know what I am doing wrong but it has only been a problem after this brain injury. Life before was fairly commonplace. Plenty of friends - and still have them. Never had problems dating. A marriage that lasted over two decades. (It ended before the brain injury). Now I think I just attract the more extreme types of self-interested people. And I don't see how easily I am being controlled until after a while when I realize the person has been taking advantage of me or constantly making me feel bad. I imagine emotionally abused people feel the same way. Anyway, peace!
Pain management and family
Disability Support / by FoolsSelf
Last post
 March 22nd, 2021
...See more One side of my family consists of mostly alcoholics. The other side, who knows, because I don't even know who my father is. I made a decision when I was young not to be like the alcoholics because their problem impacts everyone around them. So it is rare that I will even take a sip. I have a neurological condition that causes a severe amount of pain. After take pain killers for some time, I felt I should stop because I had started justifying taking them when the pain was tolerable. The doctor who prescribed them cautioned me about long term use of opiates for a chronic condition like mine. I'm glad I really considered what he said. I don't need to add an addiction as another medical problem.
Depression and brain injury
35 & Over Community / by FoolsSelf
Last post
 March 14th, 2021
...See more What impact does brain injury have in causing depression?
Depression and brain injury
7 Cups Online Therapy / by FoolsSelf
Last post
 March 14th, 2021
...See more Does anyone know how effective antidepressants are when depression is caused by brain injury - even minor brain injury? After years of taking differing kinds of medication for depression, it just seems that even when maxxed out on two different medications that medication does not work nearly as well as I suspect it ought. Mindfulness, relaxation, and a consistently timed sleep schedule help somewhat.
The past
Disability Support / by FoolsSelf
Last post
 March 26th, 2021
...See more I don't believe I ever really "get over" a past event or person. I just no longer internalize the past. I try to keep the past out of my head. But carry it with me as part of my experiences so that I can move forward. Thoughts?
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