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...See more My wife and I were having problems and going through a divorce, I had already put down payment on another home and was about to move out. In the middle of this I learned she was going out and seeing another man, she swears that nothing happened between them and that they were getting together to just talk. I give her the benefit of the doubt and believe her. At the time I didn't though, I assumed she was going out seeking a romantic relationship. I sought out for people to talk to like I am now, the difference is I stumbled apon dating websites, I started looking for anyone that would give me attention. I figured she was seeing someone new so why did it matter if I did, so I thought. Well I ended up hooking up with someone I met online, and the day before I moved out, we talked and decided to give us another try and work things out. She ended up finding out about the other woman, and the lies I was telling g her to keep this information from her. Now the trust has been broken, and our relationship is wishy washy at best. I love her more than anything and I know she still loves me, but now it seems like she is always in her head about our relationship. It seems like I can't do anything right anymore. I know she loves me for the fact she knows everything that happened during our divorce and she still wants to work things out. She tells me I do nothing to make her feel special and that I don't respect her. Her love language is acts of service, so I've been trying to do things around the house (dishes, laundry, general cleaning, taking care of the kids) so she doesn't really have to lift a finger and worry about that type of stuff. I figure if she doesn't have to worry about house chores and things like that she can focus more on us and rebuilding our relationship. I'm not a perfect person by any means, but I do want to be the partner she deserves. I mess up, I forget things alot, I get defensive whenever we talk, but I'm trying to better myself. She says I'm not trying and only focuses on the negative. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm trying but she makes me feel like I'm not doing enough to keep us together. I now feel like I'm in this by myself and she is the one that doesn't want us to be together now. I don't know what to do, we have 2 kids together and I want nothing more than to grow old with my best friend and raise our kids together.

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