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Help With My BP Husband
Bipolar, Schizophrenia & Psychosis Support / by GachaMom
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 December 1st, 2022
...See more Hi Everyone, I’ve had this app on my phone for months but I haven’t really used it so far. I am a cis female 47 married to a cis male 44 who has bipolar disorder. It’s a long story but we have 3 kids (1, 6, 7) and for two years the older kids and I lived in a domestic violence shelter due to the physical abuse of their dad. He got therapy and medication, we reconciled, we moved back in together. COVID happened, we had a new baby. The lamictal doesn’t work anymore. He hasn’t been in therapy since we moved back in together. He won’t take the new meds bc of the potential side effects. He has promised to get back in therapy. He flips out at the slightest sign of stress. I do all of the talking to teachers and doctors and neighbors. My family is mostly dead and his family dislikes me for leaving when things escalated to physical abuse, so we don’t have anyone close to talk to. When we argue he goes into a manic episode and what ends up happening is I take care of the kids by myself. We live in a tiny awful cockroach-infested 1 bedroom apartment in LA because that’s what the shelter could help me get. He is a computerized programmer but can’t hold down a job. He spends a lot of time working on “projects” and gets mad if he can’t get time to do that. Things have been getting worse and worse and I don’t know what to do. He gets angry and picks on our oldest. He follows my Twitter and gets angry if I post things like “I’m tired”. I sleep in the tiny bedroom on a full sized mattress with the older kids and the baby in the crib adjacent to us. He sleeps on a futon in the main room and (long story) has a room nearby where he can go and relax).The whole apartment is 700 square feet and there’s five of us. I’m struggling. His name is Justin but to me, he’s always been Gentle Justin and Jekyll Justin. How do I support Gentle Justin, who can be a good father and thoughtful partner, and sort of support the elimination of the hateful abusive irrational person he becomes when he’s had a bad day or he doesn’t understand something or he gets stressed? I apologize for rambling. The kids have been sick and so has my husband so I am a tired mama! I appreciate any advice you can provide or if you can point me to sites where I can learn how to handle this, I would be very grateful. Thank you so much, ❤️
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