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Breakup with a Friend?
Relationship Stress / by GoonaGoona
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 August 24th, 2017
...See more I hope this is an okay topic for this forum. I was hoping to get some advice on breaking off a friendship (not a romance.) We've been "friends" for probably 10 to 15 years now, but when we first met we were pursuing similar career paths and so had some things in common through that. Now, neither of us is in that same field, and I don't feel like we have anything else in common at all. I don't enjoy hanging out with him or talking to him, he actually strikes me as kind of an idiot. I'd been trying to just let the friendship fade out, but probably for the same reasons I find him obnoxious, he doesn't have a lot of other friends; so he keeps texting me, Facebook and such, trying to arrange to hang out. I often just try to pretend I'm too busy or that I didn't see his message, but now we've ended up with a mutual friend who has been inviting us to the same social gatherings and thus causing him to think he should see me more often. I cannot see any possible way to end this without hurting him, but I really don't want to deal with him anymore. Everything he says just annoys me because of how stupid he is, even when he comments on my posts on Facebook it just irritates me. There is no fun for me in the friendship with him. Also, many years ago he admitted he was romantically attracted to me, and the feeling was utterly not mutual, but he got me to forgive him and keep hanging out with him; so I know that "serious conversations" with this guy don't go well already. Should I just block him on Facebook-phone-email and hope that I'll never run into him again and that he'll get the point? Should I try talking to him and then block him on everything? Should I start calling him out on being an idiot and hope he'll go away (I've definitely not been super nice to him for several years now)? Or is there some better solution?
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