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Happyturtles
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PathStep 10 Compassion hearts12 Forum posts11 Forum upvotes8 Current upvotes8 Age GroupAdult Last activeDecember, 2019 Member sinceSeptember 19, 2018
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How to break out of desperation?
Relationship Stress / by Happyturtles
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 December 5th, 2019
...See more The more time that passes in this state of loneliness, the more desperate I feel. The more desperate I get, the less likely I am to actually find a healthy relationship (because no decent person wants to be with someone so desperate, right?) I feel like Im doing all of the right things: I moved and started pursuing different interests, Im building new friendships, Im going to therapy. But none of this satisfies the deep desire that I have for love and affection. I feel more and more pessimistic about ever finding someone special. I dont know how to break out of this desperation. I feel panicky at the thought of having to spend the rest of my life like this. Friends are nice, but I dont know how to convince myself that Im ok without a really deep, loving relationship. Im desperate to stop feeling desperate. Its like Im supposed to trick myself into thinking that I dont need anybody else before Im allowed to have anybody else. I dont get it. I honestly dont get how anyone finds a healthy relationship. Probably most relationships arent healthy. Probably Im better off alone. I wish I could erase all desire from my heart.
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