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Any tips or stories on coping
Relationship Stress / by Helpmeout1221
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 April 10th, 2021
...See more I've begun my growth path towards coping with the end of my short relationship. Does anyone have any coping tips or stories they'd be willing to divulge? I learn through experience so I really just want to try different things to get some normalcy in my day to day. So anything that can be shared will be cherished.
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My relationship just ended
Relationship Stress / by Helpmeout1221
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 February 28th, 2021
...See more So I'm new to the forum so please bear with me. Today my relationship ended, weren't together for a very long time(going into 6 months). The thing is we meet at work 2 years ago, he liked me but I was emotionally not ready to date. So we kinda stayed distant co work/friends. Last year I found myself feeling like I could date and try to trust someone. And I found myself being attracted to him, so I begin talking to him and it stayed us talking for like a month to a month and a half. We finally planned our first and from there it was good. Unfortunately he started school and was working at the same time, so we worked around that we'd have dinner or watch movies at his place. I meet his family and he meet what family he hadn't already known aka my mom. We were good even though he was stressed about life and school, I tried to be an ear and someone he could at least lean on emotionally. The holidays came and went, January passed and now we're in to the month of 'love'. But unfortunately he crashed his car and totalled it. With alot of back story that isn't my place to put out there, he is kinda at the losing end. He's stressed about bills, about school and can see he's depressed and just exhausted. Valentine comes and he still have me a wonderful gift and card. After that he starts to distance himself, he starts to respond on one word responses or just not responding at all. I find myself feeling sad and really hoping he's not gonna break up with me. He's done that before when he gets stressed he kinda just starts to shut down, so I convinced myself for a little bit that it was ok. But unfortunately I was wrong and right. Right cause my feeling he was gonna break up with me was right and wrong cause it wasn't ok. I know it wasn't as long alot of others relationships on here, but I still found myself bonding with him and really wanting to build a future with him. Through the good and the bad, I wanted to be there even at his lowest of lows and the highest of high. Shoot even through the boring parts. But I was wrong, he needs to help himself and fix himself before he can even try. And I'm gonna be honest he's a great guy, who's hard working and I can't be mad or upset with or at him cause he's already got to much on his plate. I'll miss him and what we had but I'm letting go.
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