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Wife cheated after 6 years of marriage
Relationship Stress / by HiHowAreYou91
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 August 10th, 2022
...See more Hi everyone, first time utilizing the app but here we go.. Over the weekend my (31M) wife (27f) cheated while out at a family member’s bachelorette party. We have been married for 6 years (together for 8). We have always been great together, best friends, no trust issues, talking about kids, everything was fantastic. In the total timespan of our relationship we have only had one issue in which she continued to keep in touch with her ex boyfriend via Snapchat, this was on and off - I expressed it made me uncomfortable but didn’t push to hard as to not come off as insecure.. after all they dated when she was 14 and in and off until around 16. I was assured (and still believe) that it was nothing malicious. She recently deleted Snapchat to cut communication with him. Fast forward to this weekend: my wife went out with her two sisters and their friends for one of the sister’s bachelorette party. on Saturday they spent all day at the beach drinking and then went to a club and continued to drink. At some point in the night she wondered off from the group and went dancing. As the night went on she ended up meeting a guy, making out with him and getting his number (that is where things stopped, no sex ) once they got home she redownloaded snap chat and ended up talking with her (previously mentioned) ex boyfriend. Things escalated and he ended up sending her nude pictures and eventually a picture of him ejaculating. I asked her if she sent nude pictures back and she swears she did not, but did send cleavage pictures. Although she did not send Nudes, there were definitely sexual messages sent (ex: “do you wish that was in my face”) and the snaps were all replayed i found this out after becoming suspicious that she had Snapchat back (her name now showed on my friends list) so after a day or so of deciding if I should log in and look at her messages I decided to do so. I checked them on Sunday as she was headed home. that’s when my heart dropped. I found the conversations between her and the ex boyfriend and also saw a message to him where she said she saw a guy that looked like him in the bar and made out with him. when she got home I confronted her about all of this and did so in a way that she brought it up. Ie: she asked why I was asking weird , I said why don’t you tell me why I am acting weird. at that point she knew she was caught and told me everything. we have had many conversations about what happened that night since and I do believe she is being honest now. the first three days I was a wreck and could not control my emotions (anger, heartbreak) everything has crossed my mind, from staying together, to divorce… it’s been a rough couple of days. I don’t really know what to do. I believe we can work through it, but I fear trust issues and resentment in the future. I really just need this put into perspective. I can’t imagine 6 years of marriage down the drain because of 15 minutes, but it really was a huge betrayal.
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