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Silently frustrated, need Advice please
35 & Over Community / by InsideMyMind37
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 July 31st, 2021
...See more I am 37, a married, pregnant, soon to be first time mom with 4 step children(Adults really, ages of 17-23) whom ALL live with us. I work literally everyday with my husband, we have our own business. I found out my hubby still pays their bills, trying to pay for college for the 2 oldest and allows them to live for free and not chip in for anything, while they all work and just spend their money on whatever they want(trips, going out, tattoos, clothes, etc.). So essentially, I am working daily at 8 months pregnant Just so they don't have to chip in(we pay A Lot for our 5 bdrm house. I haven't gotten paid for almost a year cause the business is new and covers our bills, that's it. I don't have Time for ANYTHING working daily. It's draining. It causes Inward resentment from me towards the kids/husband and when I even mention it to my hubby like, Hmmm maybe they can chip in for Something..food, laundry soap, toilet paper, SOMETHING. He gets offended and sticks up for them, "I am their dad and I will not send them in the world broke and unprepared." I understand that but Damn you had Years to prepare them, why wait until they are Adults?!?! Before we got together, he was all like, they will ALL be in college in 3 years." Lie's, they are All still living home doing community college and trade school. I feel out of place, I feel like it's Always 5 against ME. My hubby puts them first still. Now I'm having a baby and very scared I'll be left out as They all are excited for Their brother but no one talks to me or helps me feel apart of their family. I don't know what to do, I feel like taking my baby and just running away but My hubby is amazing in every other way(not really most mostly). Oh his out of state mom(who I have spoke to a few times in 6 years) said she's coming to stay with us for 2 months after baby is here, I haven't even expressed my feelings to that as I know it will offend him more, but I stay awake at night thinking of it. Advice??
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