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IsaSilver
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PathStep 6 Compassion hearts714 Forum posts108 Forum upvotes74 Current upvotes74 Age GroupAdult Last activeNovember, 2026 Member sinceAugust 17, 2020
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Asking for Opinions
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by IsaSilver
Last post
 August 15th, 2025
...See more So~ I recently got deadnamed by a guy who has retired from my company but has since joined another firm as a consultant / advisor. Our firm generally buy services from them, and I am attending an industry event soon and his company is hosting a networking session there. Within the invitation to the networking event, the guy deadnamed me. I had never personally come out to him because he only had a brief overlap with me when I first started at the company. But I qould say most in my circle of connections probably heard through the vines that I came out (especially since I have come out for a number of years already). Given that fact though, I cannot definitively tell whether he just didn't know, or if he was trying to belittle me in a way, which will be super strange since we are their firm's clients technically so he has nothing to gain really to make me feel *** about his deadnaming. Regardless, I need to make a decision how I should respond, and I have thought of 3 options below: * Thank him for the invite and basically come out to him before the event. Depending on how he responds, I will know whether it's deliberate, or if it is an honest mistake. Based on that, I will then react accordingly. * Do not directly respond to the invite, but show up at the networking event instead. Ignore him during the event if he doesn't initiate conversation, just like him ignoring the fact I am no longer who I used to be. If he comes over to chat while I am there, just be cordial if he didn't seem to recognize me, or correct him if he deadnames me again. * Do not respond to the invite and just don't show up either. What do you all think about these approaches and which may work best (and why)? Do you have other ideas other than these few options that you see? Let me know, thank you!
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Asking for opinions
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by IsaSilver
Last post
 August 15th, 2025
...See more So, I have a situation that a retired person who used to work at my company when I was fresh out of school is apparently deadnaming me on an invitation to a networking event hosted by his new company. While I never personally came out to him, I tend to think that most people probably know since it has been years since I came out, but the fact I never made it personal means that there is a slight chance he didn't know. I have certainly met him in more recent years, but he had always seemed distant, and rarely greeted me. So the dead naming on the recent invitation felt, strange to me. The fact is, our firm is largely a buyer of his firm's services, so it felt quite ironic that he would try to *** me off by doing things like that. I am quite undecided on how I want to respond, hence I want to ask for some opinions here.... I have listed some approaches that I think may work, but they are not necessarily comprehensive, so feel free to add your suggestion if you think of other ways to handle: * Thank him for the invite, and formally come out to him and see if it is an honest mistake or a deliberate one. If it is an honest mistake, great. If it is a deliberate attempt to belittle, then I will just have to handle depending on what is being said. * Ignore the invite completely, but show up for the event (it's a larger networking event, so anyone can show up). I don't think I really needed to talk to him if I don't want to, so I basically ignored him the same way he ignored me and who I am. * Ignore the invite completely, and simply don't show up. So~ my beautiful people on 7Cups, what do you think about these options, and which one will you pick?
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Supporting people coming out - ideas?
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by IsaSilver
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 April 11th, 2025
...See more I am actually part of the lgbtq+ support group at work, and I recently had the opportunity to do something to support people coming out navigate the workplace while they are at it. While I have ideas, I also wanted to listen to others' suggestions about what kind of support is the most helpful to others. Any constructive comments welcomed. Thank you! If you don't have what kind of support a person coming out may need, maybe you can also tell me about any stories of challenging things that happened in your coming out journey, and maybe I can take some of that as inspiration as well. :)
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Dealing with past conservative past connections gracefully
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by IsaSilver
Last post
 June 16th, 2022
...See more I am trans, and I happen to be talking about it with one of my past connection today since I am visiting for the weekend (I moved away from that town since). I came out to her quite some time ago, and she seems pretty accepting, and never questioned me about things, despite her saying that she felt unable to comprehend that. Given that, I thought perhaps she's okay with LGBTQ stuff but when we discussed about conservative people today, we had an argument about the baker case about the wedding cake and a gay couple... She was supportive of it being legal, where I wasn't. And when I asked, if you support the baker's case about a cake, where does the line end? Does it mean that all public services can be denied on that basis? And she said yes, which was like, so foreign to me. I cannot comprehend why she thinks that's acceptable, while being kind to me at the same time. Am I jist being tolerated without me knowing? I suddenly have second thoughts about why she seemed friendly to me despite me having come out to her. It felt like, pity… I don't know, but I felt really hesitant about her as a friend now… Am I being overly sensitive?
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Memories
Depression Support / by IsaSilver
Last post
 April 12th, 2021
...See more I went for a walk today outside and passed by a stretch of gravelly path. I suddenly thought of last year after my last broke up, and I was walking along the same path at a super duper slow pace, camera in hand, and stopping at anything that catches my attention. I was really sad that day because the walk reminded me of the breakup. It's quite common for people to walk their dogs along this path too, and I remember that there's a medium sized dog that passed by me and then she kept looking at me, and she even stopped her human. A couple times just to check and make sure I was okay. While I did felt loved, but I also felt so sorry for myself that, of all the people who passed by, only the dog noticed the emotions that was pretty much just oozing out of me then. I walked along that same path today again and I got reminded about it. I guess I must have got past it already, since I am no longer crying when I think about it, but it makes me wonder, if I were another human seeing myself walking along that path again, will I have noticed? And if I did, what would I have done? Sometimes, it feels unfortunate that while people seems so much more connected these days, we seemed to be so much more selective with whether or not we approach anybody to check and see if they are doing okay. I hope that if I see myself there again someday, that I will have the courage to ask, "are you okay? Would you like to join me on my walk?"
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