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...See more I have posted somewhere in 7cups about the situation I am in. How me and my husband was forced to give up our dream house to help my husband's dying granpa. How we have to delay making a family because we have to give financial support to the sick grandpa. How my mother-in-law forced us to give more than what we can in her stead because she's away. Things got worse since I posted that. Now the family is in chaos. Grandpa was operated and a tube was put on his throat. The cancerous tumor grew bigger so he can't breath anymore. He will be operated again this month for the tube in his tummy. Me and my husband visited grandpa and saw that he didn't like the tube in his throat. Actually, grandpa and grandma still didn't know that the tumor in grandpa's throat is larynx cancer, stage 4 and grandpa only has 6 months to live. I feel bad for them that people around them kept the condition a secret. I feel like grandpa still think that he can be cured and got his hopes up when he got the tube and got hospitalized. Grandpa was sent home 3 days after the operation. My mother in law ask us again to send money so grandpa can be released from the hospital. She already send money but it's not enough so she asked us to give some more. At that time, I just cried because seriously, all the savings that we have for our dream house is now gone. I don't want to be a bad person but at that point I actually thought that it's unfair. Grandpa got his cancer from drinking alcohol everyday for 40 years, he lived happily with friends and now that he is sick, he dragged everyone to his problem. If I'm as rich as ophrah I won't mind giving him millions if he wants it but no, we are poor and my husband is working hard to save up for our dream house. Now it's gone. Financial help doesn't stop after his release in the hospital. The family hired a helper and a private nurse, bought suction machine, nebulizer, respirator, medicines and a lot more. I know that if grandpa dies, we need to give money again for his burial. Somewhere in my thoughts, my evil self would say that grandpa doesn't deserve all the help he gets. That he should just die and its a waste of money to get him cured if he is already dying. My husband feel like my mother-in-law is getting overlu dramatic about grandpa. My mother-in-law still help us with our finances and now she stopped doing that for grandpa. Before, she told us to get our own house and she will help but now whenever we ask her about it, she will just get mad at us as if she wants to throw us away so she can give money to grandpa which is my husband think is so unfair. As children we never once disobeyed her. We respected her. Now, she is siding with people who insulted her, treated her like ATM machine, those who have wronged her before. She is throwing us away for them. How ironic is that? I wanted to tell her that but I'm just an in-law and my husband is the one who has the right to do that. Because of the way she's treating us lately, we decided to give up. I hate my mother-in-law because I love her. She changed a lot eversince grandpa got sick. She blamed us all the time because she regretted not granting all grandpa's wish before she flew back abroad. She blamed us for messing up with the mortgaged house. She blamed us for everything. She usually just call us when she is in a bad mood. All her stress about grandpa, she poured all of it to us and we already are tired hearing all his complain when she is the one who chose to help grandpa. I don't know anymore what to feel so we decided to give up on everything. We're so tired.

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