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JessHen
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Seeking Support for a Breakup
General Support / by JessHen
Last post
 October 11th, 2025
...See more Hi everyone, My ex broke up with me a couple days ago. We live together and work together, so we still interact regularly. I have no friends and no family I can trust to talk to, so I just need support. I'm lost and confused and hurting. He and I were together for 5 years. I had a lot of toxic habits from a previous relationship that I brought into the mix. In addition to my insecurities and other negative habits. He was patient with me and warned me he was getting worn down and would eventually leave. I didn't make the right changes and he now has left. He mentioned that he isn't happy with our relationship and hasn't been for months. He sees no future with me and hasn't for months. And our relationship was driving him to drink excessively. The drinking he had mentioned, but the revelation that he hasn't seen a future for months hurt because we were looking into IVF for kids all this time. I didn't even know he hadn't been seeing a future for months. We also just had a small get-away together, but he said he didn't enjoy it as much as he could because being with me isn't fun. Anyway, I'm planning on moving and finding a new job ASAP, but that can only go so fast. In the meantime, I don't know how to handle this. I feel miserable every day. At work, I keep thinking of how we used to act and the jokes we used to have, but he doesn't do any of those. He'll still be comfortable around the house and walk around in boxers, but then he always closes the door to the bathroom now and barely talks to me. I want us to go back to normal, but it is hurting him and I'd rather be hurting than have his health worsen. I have been making so many changes and improvements for myself, but I guess it was never enough. I got snippy with him and was rude, and that was the last straw. We ended up having an argument and then the next day he said he didn't want to continue the relationship and said he had been unhappy for months. I'm not sure where the best place to post this is, so forgive if this isn't it. My thinking abilities are a bit limited right now. I'm just focused on not crying or being pathetic at work.
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I let my fear control me
Relationship Stress / by JessHen
Last post
 February 15th, 2023
...See more I'm scared of getting hurt again, like anyone. My issue is that I let that fear control me. I act toxic and manipulative towards my boyfriend because I'm scared of getting hurt and instead attempt controlling whether he loves me or not. It's a huge issue, and I'm creating a self-fulfilling prophecy situation. I know there is no need to let my fear control me, but I don't know how to stop it.
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We are all there for you
Positivity & Gratitude / by JessHen
Last post
 February 9th, 2023
...See more Hi everyone! Wishing everyone the strength they need to achieve whatever goals they have for themselves. We all need a bit of support sometimes, and that's okay. We all need somebody to lean on, like the song says. Stay strong and remember you are never alone!
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