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How can I be aware of Still Open Emotional Wounds?
35 & Over Community / by JohnDoe00
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 May 23rd, 2025
...See more Greetings guys.  Been away from here for a couple of years.  I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend and this weekend is out third year anniversary. But not everything is bliss. Been having a rough patch yesterday and after we argued, I went into an Urgent Mental Health service. In the middle of the conversation it came into surface that "I Still have emotional wounds (not scars)". I felt a bit disoriented. The issue is that my next therapist appointment is in 3 months, and no inmediate schedule or any closer. I have a major lack of knowledge on how to distinguish an emotional scar from a wound. I need some orientation from fellow users since I need to ground down what's going on since i'm worried of my relationship. Since I've been away for a long time I'm not fully sure If this post is within rule.  I'm deeply worried, not in crisis. Just need some ideas to begin with, since I'm absolutely dumb on that kind of stuff since somehow I'm "emotionally blind" since I'm not sure if that lack of awareness fits on that description. Thanks in advance.
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Unfit for my age?
35 & Over Community / by JohnDoe00
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 October 21st, 2021
...See more Hello People. I've been away from here due personal issues. Got 40 on may. I feel like for mots things i am unfit for my age since i never had a relationship and most of my life i was looking for someone who could care of me because i had a big hole emotionally speaking which is a major lack of affection. I feel that my time is up and i don't have a right to find someone and i have to deal with loneliness for whatever is left of my life. The question is, since for my lack of affection for all my life i was deprived of most experiences normal people do, it is normal feeling unfit for things that should be done at this age? For example i feel i am unfit to have a family of my own since i never had a girlfriend when i was young, there fore never had the experience of deal with a relationship. If i have a relationship i could notice my inexperience and that might spook away my potential couple.
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Self confidence at 39
35 & Over Community / by JohnDoe00
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 December 2nd, 2020
...See more Greetings. I need help. I never had any kind of self confidence. And I felt like it is too late for me. How can I build self confidence because when people respect me for my work, it takes me too much time to trust on people. I never had a girlfriend and the few attempts I had in my life were all failures. How can I build that at my decaying age?
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Unfit for what is expected for my age
35 & Over Community / by JohnDoe00
Last post
 December 2nd, 2020
...See more Greetings. Not sure from where to begin. Diring my life i had alot of issues trying to get along with people. When i was on school i was s straight A student and i perceived in my classmates that i was a threat to them, sineñce i surpassed them. Then i wanted to get a love interest but the girls i wanted to be rejected me and they were dating with real douchebags, over and over again. Then i enter into college, i kept my performance high and well. Then i had my jobs for the past 16 years. The pro lem i have is that, somehow i found out that part of my social problems are sure that i have asperger's syndrome and that explains some situations. The problem is that i am 39 years old, i dont have many friends, the few female friends i have left either are married or have children on their own. I never had a girlfriend i fear that if i go on dating, i can get perceived as immature for my zero experience on dating. Other things is that i am not a person of going out. I hate partying, i don't drink, i don't like too much crowded places, so i barely go to concerts, i am into heavy metal and all the darkest variants as death metal, thrash metal, black metal, and similar genres, i am kind of anime freak fan, and i check info on tech news, i don't dance, i am militant atheist, my views about marriage is that is a complete utter fallacy that destroy the relationship, and i don't want to have children. For me is hard, close to impossible, to find a woman around my age that i can date, that do not have children, and if is divorced have to deal with the ex. For most of you i might sound like a choosing beggar, but i feel like i dont know at all how to date, and with my inability to read hidden signs i feel like I am a lost cause and my destiny is to die alone. What worsens things is that when i tried online dating i only had resultsof girls aroind 20-24 years old and somwhow that could be awkward because the age difference. And when i tried a result which was close enough, thw girl gets scared by the fact i am atheist. The problem as well is that i dont know how to open space for that because my job is my priority. And looks like rhat i don't have any more time to find love.
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