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Joubear
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I like to go fishing, fixing computers, IT stuff in general, and playing videogames.

Hoping to some day overcome the breakup of a 5 year relationship I just had.

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Feeling devastated by past relationship.
Relationship Stress / by Joubear
Last post
 September 3rd, 2025
...See more I was in a relationship with a woman for 5 years up until 4 months ago. We were living together for the entire 5 years of our relationship, and she had 2 children from a previous marriage that I helped take care of. For about 3 months after we broke up I tried to work things out with her, and we were still living together. We went on dates, I took her out to dinner and bought flowers, fixed things around the house. She still wanted to remain broken up and then a month ago, forced me to leave the house. I had to move back to my home state because I had no family where we lived and nowhere to go. After I had moved back, found out she was with another guy already. Two weeks after, she was "in a relationship" with him. And now after only 1 month of me not living there she is flaunting their relationship and posting pictures together. I know I shouldn't care and that all the advice is to "just move on, live my own life". Well for myself...it's hard to do that. I love her and still care about her. This has been the worst month of my entire life and being cut off from someone I spent 5 years of my life with just hurts more than any pain. More than dislocating my knee, tooth pain, and gall bladder attacks. Struggling to get through this. The only bright side is that I have managed to get a full time job and will be seeing a therapist this week. But even trying to heal and work on myself, I can't change the way I'm feeling inside. Thank you if you managed to read all this. Just needed to put it into words.
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Lost and heartbroken
Relationship Stress / by Joubear
Last post
 August 15th, 2025
...See more My ex girlfriend and I were together for 5 years. We had been living together for the whole relationship. 3 months ago she told me she didn't want to be with me anymore. I didn't want to accept it and tried to work things out. A few weeks ago she told me to leave the house and threatened to call the cops if I didn't. I had to quit my job and move back to the state I was previously living in before our relationship. Found out after I left that she had been talking to another man for those 3 months, maybe even longer. I cared about her more than anyone I've ever been with. She has blocked me on social media, phone, etc. Was told that she has already started a relationship with this other man. These few weeks have been very difficult, have been trying lots of self care. However, even after eating healthy, exercising, trying to keep my mind occupied, I still think about her. I'm struggling to not break down and give up on everything on nearly a daily basis.
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