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Keptforconvenience
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Relationship Stress / by Keptforconvenience
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 November 13th, 2025
...See more my husband cheated on me 9 years ago, and i've always felt that he never really felt any remorse or regret that he did that to me. instead i overcompensated to make sure that he'll love me again. he made the mistake, but I ended up being the one trying to fix it. Flash forward to a year ago. I was 8 weeks pregnant and he told me he didn't love me for the longest time. he said that he only proposed to me because he thought marriage would 'fix' us. i then bled, and despite that, he kept thinking about this co-worker of his while im pregnant. he even messaged her at 5am in the morning just because he got frustrated that I woke him up asking for help because i was so nauseated. When I found out, I went batshit crazy. I installed a spyware on his phone to track everything. I know it's wrong. but i soon realised that I have a pathological liar of a husband. Yesterday, he was working with that same girl, and for a year I have asked him not to talk to her and to keep things professional and yet he hasn't. he still kept messaging and calling her. even using the 'work' phone just so he can hide it. There was no affair, but there might as well be after yesterday. He told this woman everything. all our issues that basically put me in a bad light. it even reached to a point where he admitted that he liked her and she reciprocated saying that she was disappointed when he started chatting her up only to marry me a few months after. the worst part is when I finally came clean about spying on him and confronted him about his lies and the way he responded was "well, i didn't cheat, yes i told her about our issues, i told her i liked her before, but it was in the past, yes we were flirting, but nothing happened" as if I should be appreciative and accepting that this should be okay. because he basically didn't 'cheat'.
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