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Kilojoule1997
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Lost and Over It
Relationship Stress / by Kilojoule1997
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 February 17th, 2025
...See more Hello from a new person in the Cups world! I’m coming at the suggestion of a *** friend who sent me a link and wanted me to give this a try for a week. I’m coming off yet another relationship ending where I thought I was doing things right and yet got yelled at and treated like a villain. I went to a convention with someone I’ve been talking to and getting to know for the past 3 months. We met online and did things like got dinners, played Genshin, watched anime and more together. She is poly and was not wanting to go into a relationship and said as much. I did try to insist we were not a thing with my family she met and others in my life and I thought things were OK. And then we went to a convention this weekend and I got a scathing text from her boyfriend (she’s poly) saying I was not being considerate for wanting to explore a relationship when she said she loved me and I loved her among other things. I got told if I respect her, I’ll accept what she gives me and move on. And then she followed up saying I was not good at understanding people putting things gently and that I didn’t care about her enough. This as someone who has opened my apartment to her, fed her, given her space to vent, tried to be supportive and respectful and not hitting on others when I thought we could have a thing. It has reached the point where I don’t think I’ll ever be worthy of a relationship, where I know and accept that something will always come up and where I’m done trying since rejection and pain and getting yelled at for something I don’t even know I’m doing wrong is the norm. I read her saying about she wanting to show me what love looks like the wrong way, apparently, and now I get to pay for it. I’m so done and over trying and getting my heart broken or pulled along or just tossed out after assuming for so long that if 2 people say they like each other, they should act on it! I don’t know what to do…
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