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KindnessMatters2020
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Number of ratings275 Number of reviews237 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceMar 19, 2020 Last activein last week GenderFemale PathStep 1,062 People helped1,082 Chats6,556 Group support chats6 Listener group chats17 Forum posts154 Forum upvotes232
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Sometimes you just need someone to talk to about something difficult, sad, frustrating, or emotionally-charged. I am happy to just listen or to help brainstorm solutions. 

Besides being a verified active listener, my other roles here include:

-Quality Mentor

-Listener Coaching Team

-Safety Patrol Outreach Team

-Verifier for Verified Listener Team

Recent forum posts
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Positivity & Gratitude / by KindnessMatters2020
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March 8th, 2022
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Thrive Global: When in Doubt, Do What Doesn't Come Naturally
Community Projects & Events / by KindnessMatters2020
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December 10th, 2023
...See more Thrive Global: When in Doubt, Do What Doesn't Come Naturally I texted a friend to tell her my plan. She understood how I was feeling, but told me: “Wendy, go take a hike. It’s going to be a beautiful day. You’ll feel better if you do and you can always go back to the couch afterwards if you still want to.” It helps that my friend (Dr. Kelly Baron), also happens to be a clinical psychologist and sleep researcher like me. So I followed her advice, albeit reluctantly. Once I got outside and started moving, I noticed the cobwebs clouding my brain started to clear a bit, despite my sleep-deprived and over-served night. As my head cleared, words came to me that I so often tell clients in my therapy practice: “When in doubt and you are feeling really down, do the behavioral opposite.” The technique, stemming from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, is called “Opposite Action [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-musings/201703/feeling-urge-and-then-doing-opposite-action].” It is based on the idea that when we are feeling anxious or depressed or otherwise bad, we experience a variety of urges toward things that we think will make us feel better, but ultimately make us feel worse. In my case, the urge was to spend the day on the sofa indulging all my fears and uncertainties. Some of the things I learned from this article: -it is ok (and super helpful) to take a break from intense situations -taking time to regroup mentally is self-care -utilizing support around us instead of retreating feels better than we might initially think To learn more, read the complete article here [https://thriveglobal.com/stories/when-in-doubt-do-what-doesnt-come-naturally/] What are some ways that you can try to do what doesn't come naturally in stressful situations in your life? #OppositeAction #Self-care #Stress
Feedback & Reviews
Very kind listener with lots of insight. Listener checked in after a few days. Very much appreciate you!
She is kind, patient, and attentive
Very understanding thankyou
very responsive
a gentle soul and a great listener. a good intro session. hope to talk again.
she is the sweetest person ever! I am so glad that I got a chance to talk to her, she is an angel that listens to you carefully and empathy like a friend and a sister
She really listens and helps the best that they can.
Kind, understanding and empathetic. A truly wonderful listener. Picture her as a pair of shoes in the window that fits so nice and helps you with support and comfort. Absolutely lovely, thank you ❤️
Super kind and helpful!
Listener has been very understanding and empathetic so far. I am enjoying talking to them.
Truly amazing person heart of gold helped me in my time of need
Awesome, awesome, awesome!
So kind and affirming and supportive! Superb listener and exceptionally intuitive. So grateful to have connected with KindnessMatters2020!
Excellent listener and insightful encouragement!
I had close to an hour of chat with this amazing listener who was so wise and patient. I felt very comfortable sharing about difficult things without judgement.
A helpful. and informed chat.
Wonderful listener!!!
She's been very kind and supportive and understanding when I needed it the most.
She is AMAZING!!! What a listener who doesn’t judge, caring and truly saved my problem. She is the epitome of salvation. Thank you so much.
Oh man. So wonderful. So kind and thoughtful. Thank you so much.
Sophia has been a great listener. Thank you
The listener was so kind and open minded to whatever i said and there was no ounce of judgment in his/her words
Responds quickly
Gives hope and great listening
Very helpful and very good listener. Really helped me to feel better. Highly recommend and I plan to use again.
The chat was helpful. Sophia listened to me patiently and has good perspective. Thanks a lot for being there!
Katie has been very kind and nice. Thanks a lot
he/she is probably the best listener here. made me feel better for sure and i’m thankful to talk to him/her
Let me talk for hours
They were very encouraging and adaptable to my needs. They felt casual and remained professional and I just felt very understood. They're awesome
Great listener!
awesome person the chat was helpful
Great listener, very responsive and pleasant to chat with
One of the best listeners on 7cups. Kind, responsible, friendly and with a heart of gold. Thanks so much for listening to me
She can heal your medulla oblongata.....trust her.....she has some natural powers 😊💕
very mature and sound, with depth of human connection and relationship
Very attentive, friendly, and relatable
It was really uplifting
this listener solve my problem in a really quick time
Wonderful listener. Helped a lot.
arsh here thanks
Patience, caring, feel your prblm. I mean absolutely lovely woman. I'm blessed to have her. 😇
Such an awesome listener. She was so gently and kind. I felt like I could be my true self. High praise.
Very patient and supportive. Talking to them helped me a lot
Just the sweetest.
All around great
Very generous and thoughtful. I feel better x2 times. Thankyousomuch.
good listener, positive attitude
I felt so much better after the chat. Introduced me some really beneficial sources and methods I could try to reflect. Much appreciated.
Wonderful and great listener
Super helpful, definitely recommend
best listener on cups i promise. asks the right questions. empathizes deeply. helped me appreciate my bf. also my bf's long lost twin. so that helped hehe. i am so glad i got to chat with you. you are one of the best things that has happened to me on cups!!! i will bug you again with the journey you helped me begin 🤭
Seems like a helpful person :)
Thank you so much Katie
Very calming and helpful
So kind 🤍 understanding and non judgemental 🤍
She is helpful.
Kind and caring! It was calming talking to her
Possitive, compassionate and kind. Made me feel better❤
I just joined 7cups on a whim because I really needed to talk to someone right now, and Kindness was an amazing listener who really cheered me on!! thank you so much for connecting with me and for all the words of encouragement, I really appreciate it!
Encouraging, kind, and positive. She can really bring out the best in you and feel your issues. Her words resonated with me deep down. Such a beautiful human being. She really makes me believe that humanity exists today. Thank you!
first time for tis thing and i enjoyed very much
She's great. Helped me as much as she could.
This was by far my best chat ever. She is a remarkable Listener!
they’re amazing
Extremely kind and supportive. God bless you.
Very helpful!! Helped me with all my problems and gave great solutions. I'm so thankful for getting this help AND support.
this listener was amazing. Although unable to help me with my particular reason for seeking a listener today they were able to find somebody who was able and I am so thankful and grateful that they were there to help
They were compassionate, caring, and wonderful to talk to. They let me explain my situation, and understood my situation right away. The analysis of my situation that they made and how detail oriented and caring they were all throughout amazes me. They listened to me like a friend and offered support and guidance. I was panicking about my situation before talking to them, but I left feeling more at ease and with a plan forward. I feel so relieved because of them. I cannot thank them enough. :)
Thanks for being patient with me
Amazing and kind
So thoughtful and KIND! Helped me gain perspective and come up with ideas on how to handle stuff
Loved it! if you in need of a serious mature help - she is one to go to. Some people may have skills, she's got TALENT and INSIGHT!
Nice gentle and kind
Very helpful and I realized it's not all my fault. Great listener and tries to engage what the problem is.
Awesome wonderful amazing beautiful chat peace love blessings
Made me laugh and feel better in my worst. So sweet, lovely, kind, funny and warm. I am so lucky to meet her. Thanks a lot Captain!
very kind and supportive. the best listener I talked to
Good listener. Insight questions to help coach me.
Amazing listener listened to all my concerns and helped a lot would defo Recommend ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Great listener and provided a lot of good things to think about from our conversation.
Great listener!
Really helpful person. Really helped put things into perspective
Good person thanks
A genuine person that really wants to help!
Amazing chat thank you so much
Great conversations
attentive. exactly what I needed
One of the best listeners.
Very good talk 🙂
Really made me feel understood
I feel heard. Gave me ressources about things they might not know
Very kind and positive.
She heard me out with so much patience and genuinely made an effort to make me feel better. Thank you!
Responfds immediate
Very kind and supportive listener with practical direction to help.
Very good listener Thoughtful and caring Non judgmental and seems to genuinely try to understand Five stars
Really helpful listener like an ANGEL! I am lucky i found her. :)
awesome and kind, thank you
10/10, loved it. awesome chatter
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