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Trouble overcoming breakup with a widow (ignore the other)
35 & Over Community / by Krakatoaaa
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 June 16th, 2023
...See more It's been 3 weeks so far since we broke up. She said she couldn't currently be in a relationship. She had lost her husband 3 years ago and met me about a year after the event. I have been her world for that time I suppose. She became my world, too. And with her little daughter I felt I'd risen to a father-like role. I was the girl's favorite person and she would always talk about me to everyone at her school and always wonder where I was when I wasn't around. 3 weeks and I've barely moved. I'm forcing myself to eat and I did manage a couple of workouts, but I feel like it's getting harder. I've dealt with breakups before, but this one hits differently. I'm losing 2 people I loved. I've been on no contact and that eats away at me and always question whether I should be there for her. She was shocked when she said i wouldn't continue to talk to her. But I feel like it's the best thing to do as it'll allow her to grieve her late husband properly and maybe highlight how important I was to her now that I'm gone. I don't know how to move on or what steps to take now. With me around she could only barely take care of her day to day living, so the thought of her alone makes me fear what kind of a condition she could be living in. But I also don't want to write to her to find out. I suppose I'm holding onto a dream that she uses this time to grieve properly and then reaches out to me again where we can try to start this all over again. What am I doing wrong? Are there any tips on how to deal with this?
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