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LJTT
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Down in the dumps
Relationship Stress / by LJTT
Last post
 June 13th, 2021
...See more Hi there. I don't know what to do. I'm a married man with 3 beautiful children, and have been with my wife for sixteen years. We are constantly fighting and it seems I can never do anything right. I am fully committed to my family, as in being involved with the children everyday and night and providing all I can. The main issue is that, 8 years ago, I told her about a short fling I had while being based overseas. Nothing sexual, just a kiss and messages after. I also become overly flirtatious when drinking, and give out the wrong message to other women which causes issues as well. There have also been issues with violence, which I cannot regret enough. I have been trying so hard for so long to convince my wife of my full commitment, to make positive changes, and to put her at ease but my attempts usually fail. Any steps I take never seem to be enough. My patience subsides after listening to her talk at me and we end up fighting. I shut down and do not know what to say which causes fights. I have to be on edge all of the time as any word, gesture, memory, action, inaction or behaviour could cause tense moments, where I didn't take the right action to reassure her. I really don't know what to do, and don't want to cause any problems for our young children
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